...and I don't know what to do about it. We met in a club one night and I ended up taking him home with me. We had sex... I was a virgin. I don't regret this decision I actually wanted to lose it in a way like this. He didn't know I was at first but I told him and he seemed ok with it. Well, I was not expecting for him to be interested in me after that night. He asked me to lunch the next day. We have been out 4 or 5 times now but I still don't know what he wants. I figure he just wants to have sex with me... of the booty call persuasion. I am getting mixed signals, though. We legitamately go out. He willingly came to an event at my work (I can't even get my friends to do that). I sleep over at his house. We sit and watch movies and tv. He is getting more comfortable with me, like he actually started picking at his feet one night as we were watching a movie. But we don't talk very much. Maybe a text message once or twice a week. We have sex every time we see eachother... I don't know how to tell if he is really into me or if he just wants sex. The last guy I brought up anything having to do with a relationship flipped out(even though we were dating for 3 months). I don't want to ruin anything this time. I am cool with whatever we are. I just want to know what we are. What should I do?
That seems logical. I just don't want him to be like, "really? you thought this could be something more? you are just a club whore." We have only known eachother for a few weeks. I don't want to sound pushy or anything.
^^Haha. Stab him in the face. Just ask him. What's the worst he can do? Tell you he's just in it for the sex.... You'll never know until you ask. If you're fine with whatever you are, like you said you were, then just ask.
Isn't it a false dichotomy though? How about if he's interested in you as a person, and sex but yet he does not wish to be exclusive? I always get in trouble with girls for that. I can't have sex with a woman without taking an interest in her life. I've been accused of sending mixed signals because of that, like they expect me to either be sexually exclusive or have no interest in them whatsoever.
Seriously just ask. And the guy that flipped out after you were supposedly dating for three months? He must have been a fucking loser. Not even worth it. Be honest about it, you're part of the relationship/whatever-it-is too and you have a right to know what it is.
yeah, I shouldn't project anything onto this guy because of the last guy. I need to just talk to him about our situation. If he wants to be exclusive then there ya go. If he wants to just have sex then we can keep going. If it is somewhere in between then we can go from there. He is just such a great guy and I don't want to ruin anything with him, but it is better to get everything out in the open. Then there will be no need to wonder... just room for fun. Thanks everyone for helping me. Now I realize that I am not crazy for questioning my relationship status.
So as an update... I haven't seen him in 2 weeks. He texted me the day I was moving out and asked to go out, and I told him that I was moving and couldn't. Then I asked if he was free at all on Tuesday or Wednesday... he had to work. On Saturday I texted him if to see if he had any free time at all during the weekend... nope, work. So looks like I am not even going to get an opportunity to ask what we are... because whatever it was is ending. I am going to quote a movie, "If a guy wants to be with you, he will find a way to be with you." My guess is that he doesn't want to be with me. Meh. It was fun while it lasted. oh well. Back to my non existant sex life. haha.
I'm sorry it didn't work out. On the other hand you seem to have a really good outlook on it. You'll find someone else I'm sure.
