i'm a girl in my late 20ties, i look ok, not a beauty, but attractive enough. i'm funny, even though brutal sometimes, i am able to converse about different subjects, ranging from light to deep whatever... anyway, i meet men, sometimes i can approach a guy, sometimes they approach me... we talk, laugh, have a drink, maybe dance... but, i always seem to mess it up, and very rarely i get their number... or email... or something... how? why do i do wrong? what should i do? i dont giggle.
you see, even you didnt give the whole number... there's something about me... yes, i can ask for a phone number, true... i dont do that, usually, though. my plan is to change that part of my behavior. so i did, a month ago. i got the number. and i asked that guy out. did he go? no... but he was friendly and nice when i met him at some events after that and bought me a beer... all these men i meet, the ones that i like - we become acquaintances - i see them here and there, and they are usually friendly and talkative... but... it all stays on a friendly basis like, yesterday i was flirting with a guy that i flirt with for the last 10 years. and he just disappeared in a club... or i did, i am not sure what happened all the men i meet just wanna talk to me, occasionally.. ok, i am just making it look more dramatic, i did have boyfriends, i do have occasianaly one-night stands (like 5 this year) but... but what? why are other woman more successful?
At what? You havent said anything in your posts about what age range you are aiming for or what you mean by closing the deal. Are you talking about hooking up, or getting a boyfriend. If you are late 20s you are probably aiming for mid 30s, if you are talking about hooking up, then by then they'd probably rather just get a good nights sleep, they aint teenagers anymore. If you are talking aout getting a boyfriend, and you are late 20s the are probably just going to assume you are marriage/baby crazy. Other woman are more successful, are you sure?
i don't know why you're having those experiences but my advice is just to ask for a number if you want it. if men are approaching you then that's a good sign. if they seem interested in person and then aren't interested in seeing you again, don't take it personally. they're just not diggin it for whatever reason. keep looking. what type of relationship and experiences do you want? make sure your actions and words are aligned with your desires. be clear with men because no one can read minds. i hope this helps somehow. best wishes eace:
You may be trying too hard. Most men like the chase as much as the catch. If you seem overanxious, they might be turned off. Play it cool, babe.
