I was wondering how many people feel that really connecting with someone mentally is a requirement to having any sexual relations with them? Do you feel the need to get to know the individual before you engage in anything sexual with them? Is it mandatory that they meet your "approval" so to say in regards to their personality and general outlook towards various subjects etc...? or Does it not matter at all to you? Only somewhat? Where do you draw the line between pleasure and actual "love?"
It depends on what i want that person for.. Like if its just a one night stand then i can just never talk to them again.. But if its in a relationship i want a connection.
I have to beable to talk to the person. I mean I don't just go into something without being able to joke around or talk to or whatever. Even if it is just a one time thing or "casual". I still like being able to talk to someone.
I have been with my wife for close to 10 years. I had a huge connection with her before we slept together for the first time even though we had not been dating very long. I respect her as a kind and sweet person, admire her intelligence and think that she is absolutely beautiful. She is also open to me sexually and recently opening up more and more as we move on. I would not want to be with anyone with whom I do not have such a connection. Anything less would be a disappointment.
i don't think i have to be in love with someone like i want to be with you forever, but i do think i should have a physical and mental attraction to them cause i do think of sex as making love still even though a lot of people don't
At this particular point in my life at least, I will say, yes the mental/emotional/spiritual connection is a requirement. I just love communicating with someone who I can relate to on a really deep level. That seems to make her even more sexually appealing, so to speak. I might have a different answer in the future, though. Who knows, right?
I have to be able to respect a person mentally and personally. But, no, there doesn't need to be a profound connection. That said, the most satisfying sex is with someone you are deeply connected to, and I am very fortunate I have found someone to whom I am.
