The end of the rope...

If he got in an accident it would be major. However, if he just got stopped for speeding or arrested for a non-driving offense it shouldn't be a big deal. Reporting it stolen should put you in the clear as long as he has no way of proving otherwise.

The comment I made before was poorly worded. I did not mean to be sympathetic; rather I meant that being nice and giving people the benefit of the doubt is more often then not a good thing.

Peace, Alex

P.S. I think you would be better off if you admitted to knowing about his DUI, then you could say that there is no way you'd let him use your truck.

 

"P.S. Do not report your car as stolen. Lying about the situation will only make it worse."

Do you have any idea of the legal ramifications of this person driving her car?

The notion that she might be in a little trouble???

I have offered the best legal recourse on this to protect "her". It is not ethical but it is the technical defintion under the law to protect her. It absolves her of responsiblity for his actions.

Her own actions she will live with.

The question was for suggestions, I gave her a legal out.

 

I don't know what the law is in Ontario, but here in the US it's illegal to give false information to the police.

Alex

 

Yup, just like lending your car to someone who is not suppose to be driving. Rather a no no from start to finish.

Reality check....gave her a legal out.

Did mention ethics but also ethics means you do not lend your car to someone who should not be driving.

Suggestions were asked for and I supplied the best legal suggestion.

 

i didnt realize that Heat was an attorney and could ethically and legally give out "legal outs".

damn if he/she is, you just got a free consultation.

 

From someone who has been on the opposite end and knows the legal out as it was used......perhaps it is.

Thank you for the giggle.

 

well actually Heat, my remark was a tad bit sarcastic (at least in my mind). but hey, ya know shit happens to the best of us.

and I spose that someone on the opposite side would know what is up with certain things.

and yes you are hella right that she would be held liable for any damages incurred on the behalf of her boyfriend just because she "knew" he didnt have a license, if he had gotten into a wreck or something of the such. SOunds more to me tho, that he got into a fight outside of the said vehicle, (most fights occur that way) which would mean he wasnt probably driving the vehicle which more than likely would mean they couldnt have really cited him for any vehicle codes or moving violations., ya just never know tho, the cop could have gotten pissed off at his wife for not givng him any before he left for work and probably cited him for anything he could come up with.

 

Perhaps I did choose to ignore the sarcasm and instead respond with humour and experience as that is how I handle debate. Sarcasm rolls off me rather well...rather can do that as well when I feel the need to. No issue with you or any others in this thread as that is how I live life ....state and walk.

I do agree that shit happens to us all but I also have an issue with people who know better patting adults on the head when it is not in their best interest. I do not do pity parties well as in real life consequences are not then viewed quite so liberally. We have legal responsibilities, end of story. I also detest the rah rah of do what ever and you are a good person etc as that is not life and good people get screwed and frankly often screw themselves and then look at others as if to say why me. Why me is usually only as far as honest evaluation of what we should not of done.

I have compassion for choices and decisions but also temper them with what I do know and have had happen not only to me but to others... as it is where I am.

As I stated.....gave a legal out....not ethical or moral but one that will work.

Sometimes it comes down to no excuse and fix your damn mess the best way you can for yourself......cover your ass. Legally this could haunt someone for insurance alone for years.

The actual incident does not excuse the lack of judgement in the first place to hand over the keys. If it was a brawl, good learning curve and the car will be returned after the complaint with nothing further and done....if it is more then perhaps it will take some DUI off the roads. Bonus.

 

you shouldn't have given him the keys, you should have dumped him last month when you were expressing the problems in your relationship-coldness imo is worse than your car being impounded considering you gave him the keys. I don't mean to be so blunt but it sounds like he doesn't have a lot of respect for you. I think it is great that you are getting his stuff out of your place and good luck you deserve a lot better

 

Oh and lie your ass off report the car stolen he should have been responsible and never asked in the first place. he's supposed to take care of you not get you into trouble.

 

Well I told the pigs the truth. I can't stand lying about anything. They took an information report and they'll keep their eye out for it, but since I don't want to press charges (which I know I should), they can't do much more.

I asked for all this, I admit it. I was in the wrong. I knew I should have dumped him long ago...some of you all know the story. I just keep giving second chances...and seconds turn into thirds and thirds turn into fourths (you get the idea). I was irresponsible. I was irrational. I was naive. I was a lot of things...including wrong.

Now it's a waiting game. I've called who I can call, I've talked to who I can talk to. He's not in jail anywhere in S.E. Michigan or N.W. Ohio...I can tell you that much.

It will all turn out how it's supposed to.

 

If your ex won't tell you where the car is you have to press charges that's really messed up of him.

 

Yeah if it's not back in my driveway by three o'clock tomorrow with all of my stuff in it. I will press charges...guaranteed. I made that promise to myself and I am keeping it.

Obviously this happened for a reason, so I will take it in stride and learn the lesson.

 

I would like to know what happens with this, as I will wonder about you after reading all this lol! I personally am glad that you didn't lie! Now you don't have to have that bugging you. I am not very good at it either and just prefer to refrain from speaking unless asked directly lolol! I am really sorry that all this happened to you. hang in there, the guy you deserve is out there somewhere. keep your chin up