Why??? Please explain it to me... Please!!!

Hmm. It has been shown in various studies that women are attracted to men who resemble their father-figures. When my husband and I got together, he was a scary looking man: long hair, bad teeth, grizzly beard, thin as a rail, etc. However: I knew him very well, and we were best friends (He is well endowed, but I didn't know that yet.). I realized shortly after we were engaged that he and my father are very similar: facial hair, dental issues (resolved), same tastes in humor, similar family values and work ethics, same areas of pig-headedness, same professions at the time, same tastes for academic fun (history nuts, both of them), same music tastes, and the list continues. I was seriously disturbed by this until I found out everything I had in common with my mother-in-law: artistic tendencies, tempers, lack of cooking skills, etc.

Counterpoint: my ex, a very handsome man, was a complete prick. He put me through various levels of emotional abuse, and in the end screwed himself deliciously while my current husband cleaned up the mess. My mother has pulled the same games on six daughters. Incidentaly, the ex was her idea and not mine, but I had no say-so in the matter at that age. Don't ask. I cannot for the life of me make myself like anyone who resembles him too closely. It's nothing personal againt the individuals, and many of them are probably quite nice, but they just are OFF the menu.

I am always a little edgy around women who look like Mom, but somehow those women ususally wind up acting like her anyway. I can't explain that one. I guess that particular appearence only comes from years of self-hatred, religious fanaticism, and resentment of those who dare to be comfortable with themselves.

 

My husband is the complete opposite of my father

 

My fiance doesn't look like my father, but has a few of his personality traits. It creeped me out when we first met, but there is enough to differentiate them from each other so that it's not too weird.
I've heard that we pick people who resemble ourselves. The last two serious relationships I had, my teachers all assumed they were my brother until they saw us making out in the hall.

 

I wouldn't be caught dead next to a high-maintenance chick like that in public!

 

Ohhh, ok. so...a girl that looks like plastic, really fake and "perfect", is going out with a real, average guy? so what!
my bf's 38 and way outta my league just by how great he is. but neither of us care, and neither do our families.