my moms an alcoholic... well, she used to be when I was younger, and stopped about 5-7 years ago. Until this summer we went on vacation and she got drunk again, it really pissed me off. She just left me and my younger sister to walk around the city and do our own thing while she layed in a dark hotel room... and I thought this would be a one time thing. My brother left for college today, and haven't seen my mom all day (I usually do) so I went to her room to say hi, and she's standing up supported by the bed with her hair everywhere and the sheets ruffled of course she's been lying in bed all day. and I get pissed.. of course this is where she is. She tries to really stand up, and falls backwards and hit her head on a table. I ran out cause I'm just sick of it. I can't fucking stand this. I'm just ranting on here cause I can't think of anyone or anywhere else to rant to. WHY CANT SHE JUST FUCKING STOP THIS
im so sorry for this babe.....but trust me i feel your pain. I grew up with a father as an alcoholic and the pain u endure as a child in neverending. My best advice to u is to not give up on her but dissonnect as much as possible for your own sanity....if u ever need to talk message me.
Because alcoholism is a disease, it's a severe addiction to an external substance. You know how your brain relies on chemicals that naturally occur in your body in order to function? At his point (assuming she is a legitimate alcoholic) her brain is telling her that she NEEDS alcohol in her system. For someone who is sincerely addicted to a foreign substance, it isn't so easy as WHY CANT SHE JUST FUCKING STOP.
Right. I don't mean to sound insensitive, it's just that getting angry over it, and especially getting angry with her, will not solve anything, and probably only reassure her in her alcoholism, by prompting a need for further drinking. If you are showing your care through anger, you are going about it in a destructive way. You should approach her about this, and let her know how you feel in a calm and honest way.
She can't stop because she is not yet ready to. Only when something happens that will make her feel that she has to stop for herself (not for anyone or anything else) will she have a real chance of stopping. Even then, some people can never overcome the addiction. The best thing you can do is realize that there is absolutely nothing you can do about her drinking, and go ahead and live your life. You can still care about her, but you cannot help her. She has to do that on her own. You could do something like suggest AA or treatment, but you cannot make her go, or make her stop even if she does go.
I'm so sorry you have to go through such a traumatic time in your life. The best way to deal with this issue is to talk calmly with her . Let her know how you feel. Explain to her why you feel that way and that it hurts you when she does that . Drinking is a VERY VERY BAD addiction . My father was /is an alcoholic , and i lived it . Have you tried looking on the internet for alateen/alanon. They have a lot of good insite for children/teens/adults that go through such a ordeal. If there is a alateen in your location feel free to give a call everything is confidential and there may be groups. If you don't feel comfortable going alone, try asking one of your close friends or relatives they may bw intrested. Is there a relative that can help you out with this situation? Is your dad in the picture? How about staying with maybe your grandparents for awhile or asking someone the roundabouts asking your mother for treatment ie; how to go about asking her.. Who the best person would be. I know that when i was living at home i wrote a lot of stories , poetry , songs, etc. My dad had a alcoholic girlfriend as well as himself and it didn't help much not being able to get on the counter because there was too many cases of 2/4's on it. I finally wrote a in depth poem about my drunk dad and read it too him in front of his now ex gf and told him that if he didn't stop drinking he wouldn't be alive to see his grandchildren be boen, your quite young for that though. I would just tell your mother that if she wants to see you graduate college and see you get married to simmer down on what she thinks is the way of life . Bring some positive things to it . Maybe you and your mother can go and work out together or something outside the house that gets her away from THAT surrounding . I hope this makes you feel better pm if you want
