Can it ever be True love with someone you are having sex with?

For just about everyone, their parents are the only ones that are going to take them back to the memory of when you where 3 years old safe in mummy or daddy's arms. So you are going to love them in a way thats not possible with every other human you encounter in your lifetime. A type of love that comes from someone that the vast majority dont have sex with

When it comes to unconditional love, that only really comes when you have kids doesnt it. Given some bizarre hypothetical where you have to make a choice between saving the life of your kid or of your partners at the cost of your own, wouldnt most choose the kid, wouldnt your partner expect you to choose the kid. Are you ever going to be able to love your partner as much as your kids

As for your partner, can it ever really be called true love if sex is involved, doesnt the green eyed monster always get in the way to some degree?

Can it be called unconditional love between you and your partner if usually there is at least one big condition slapped on there - dont fuck other people?

 

it can -but its very rare sex is about hornyness not love

 

ON YOUR PART:

It's unconditional love if you follow that condition.
It's unconditional love if your partner doesn't, but you do and forgive them anyway...

I maen you can't take that shit forever but I hope ya get my point here.

 

Why not? After many partners, when you don't really want to go around and sleep with someone else just to build your expiriance, you can truely fall in love and have sex with the same person. Monogamy comes natural, and in my case - it came together with the love.

 

Unconditional love means you'll love them no matter what, but that doesn't mean you have to put up with unlimited shit.

Yes, I believe it is fully possible, and I believe unconditional love for your partner is paramount to a successful long-term relationship.

The green eyed monster, if you're talking about jealousy, might rear its ugly head even though you love your partner unconditionally, but that doesn't say anything about your love, only your insecurity and lack of trust in your partner.

 

It can happen. It takes time and effort to develop that. I think it is worth it.

Having common interests (other than sex) helps.

 

EXACTLY. You'reafreakinggenius. =p

 

True love is a feeling which goes far ahead of just sex and true love is always unconditional which makes us to do all the shit which we would never for someone else.

Sex matters in true love to a degree which depends on person's personality. Also, true love can be developed with a person you are sleeping with if you devote time to relationship.

 

Then its not Unconditional

 

True. But then you're just an idiot for sticking around.

 

then again IF it was unconditional love, the partner wouldnt do idiotic things

 

Which still leaves a condition, dont do idiotic things.

One can call it true love, but you cant call it unconditional if there are any conditions.

No one is really going to be able to win this circular argument, its not unconditional love if there is a single condition, and if there arent any conditions, zero jealousy, then its not love.

Or more simply, Love doesnt exist without Jealousy

 

I honestly think it's possible to be unconditionally in love with someone you have sex with. I think as long as you're friends first, then things can work out

 

No, what you're saying isn't right.

Unconditional love is to love someone regardless of their actions or beliefs. It means that the love is unconditional, not the relationship. Eg. If my boyfriend cheats on me tomorrow or starts acting like a prick, I'll still love him. I might go as far as to end it between us, but love doesn't just go away instantly like that. Our relationship is not unconditional but our love is.

"Don't fuck other people" is a condition of the relationship, not love. When someone says "Don't fuck other people" the unsaid is "Don't fuck other people or you'll fuck our relationship, I'll be hurt and we'll be over" not "Don't fuck other people or I'll instantly fall out of love with you".

 

we all cant agree on one meaning of "true love" we have our own views about it.

your question is can you find true love in the person you have sex with? My answer is yes you can because sex is a form of a closeness to your partner, its showing romance and how much you love and respect them. thats how i am though

true love to me is having confidence and teamwork with your partner or friend, you can get around or handle their flaws and you see the other part of them

 

well said :cheers2: (Off topic: for some unknown reason I just love using this emoticon today)

 

Everyone has their own definition of true love and here's mine. I love Sharron (my fiancée) and there's nothing I want to change about her. Yes, there are things that she does that drive me up the wall (she doesn't like cherries, likes r'n'b, will try and have a conversation with me when I'm trying to conentrate on something, etc) but, I don't want to change her. If I said "I love her except for the fact she doesn't like cherries", then I'm not in love with her but, an ideal version of her. The things that do my head in, actually make me love her even more and are kind of endearing in a way.

Whether you can have true love AND sex? Yes you can. I fell in love with Sharron way before we'd even got together and I turned down some offers of sex off people purely because I knew I was in love with her. If she suddenly said she wasn't interested in sex any more I'd be slightly miffed because the sex is great but, I'd learn to cope with it and probably go back to dating mother Palm and her 5 daughters. So I guess the sex doesn't matter really.