im really having trouble lately, its not seeming to get any better. i was best friends with this girl and we started dating and we fell in love and got engaged. We went to summercamp and she cheated on me twice at the festival. And the previous 2 relationships before her i was cheated on and now because of that im having a really hard time trusting any girl im in a relationship with. I constantly feel like a girl is cheating on me now if im not with her, and ive found myself saying in my head "how can u trust her?" towards any guy when his girlfriend isnt around...Does anyone have any suggestions for helping to get over this fear?
i know not all girls are like that, but dispite that knowledge i still find it near impossible to trust people. i think its to the point i almost dont want to risk being hurt again. because i figure...it was true love (for me at least), never felt that way about anyone before...but if she can cheat on me when she loved me that much, whats to stop anyone else?...
First I need you to know that I am very liberal on these issues. If my wife wanted to have sex with someone else that would not bother me as long a she does not bring home a STD. If she is having fun and enjoying herself that okay with me. You can ether accept the fact that some girls and guys cheat or lit it drive you crazy. How seriously should you take this. I don't know because I don't know the parties involved. I think that some people have trouble being faithful when they are not with the significant other. The bottom line is that we are responsible for our own happiness. I have alway given my significant other the benefit of the doubt until I had evidence otherwise. I never worry about playful flirtation. After all I like to flirt and would not expect my significant other to be any different.
fuck man! don't you know you're on your own trip. and so is she. if making love to other men is a part of her trip, then that is what it is. its not something to get all bent out of shape about. you should be grooving on your trip and not on hers, especially if its a damper on your experience. btw, trust isn't something you can put in your pocket and carry around like a cell phone.
