Hi..I'm new here...and I just wanted to let this all out here cause I don't really know where else to say it..and I want to get it off my chest... I am one of probably the most cowardly guys ever..and overly emotional...I've only ever asked 2 people out...one which rejected me..and the other leading to a 3 year online relationship...there have been a lot of bumpy parts along the way..and I was trying my best to make it so that we could have a chance to meet up and all that..but since im such a big fat coward..ive always sort of stretched it sort of thin...and everyone telling me that its not going to work...even though i sort of had a feeling like that in the back of my head...that it might now...it just kicked my self esteem in the balls..especially when it was coming from my parents..so recently..we decided to go our seperate ways...we still love each other..its just be both know that we cant keep spreading it thinly like we have..or cant go on or whatever...=[ I know that most people might not understand where I'm coming from..or how i might feel..and what not...I just really wanted to get it off my chest...now im just terrified if trying to find someone else..or something..blah...=[
Self esteem is a total snowball effect. If you refer to yourself in a demeaning way, you will not feel good about yourself or act confident. You will miss out on 100% of the dates you don't shoot for. Girls are not like as shallow as guys in the sense that a truly beautiful girl won't necessarily shoot you down because you don't have washboard abs or look like an abercrombie model. And ones that do are probably not what your looking for. I think you should fix yourself up and put yourself out there. Women respond to a guy who is putting effort into being outgoing I think. Start asking girls out at every reasonable opportunity. You may surprise yourself. goodluck
I agree with Haze. I used to date a girl who slapped me when I first asked her out (I was drunk). I mean clean up, suit up, and practice your pickup line now. for instance: Hey, don't I know you? Yeah, you're the girl with the beautiful smile. And I recommend this video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=a69FoZ1r8F8
Don't put pressure on yourself to be something you're not, with cheesy pick-up lines and false confidence. Your self-esteem will evolve and when a girl notices and thinks you're sweet, it may be all the more special for it. Chin up!
