advise (should I tell my girlfriend right away?)

ok, long story short...


my high school crush (I am now 24) is coming over (she is from a different country) for couple of days. She wants to see me.

my girlfriend is not a jealous person, but she knows I was madly in love with that girl back then (and it never really ended, she just went back to her country), should I tell her right away that I will probably see her soon or should I wait to see if we will actually see each other or not?

I dont have any feelings for her anymore (havent talk to her for 4 years now), so its no big deal....or is it?

 

I don't know dude, is it a big deal?

 

dont tell her ever...feelings have a way of coming back real easy...its a BIG deal

 

of course its not a big deal, I just dont want my girlfriend to get angry for no reason.

 

dude,,,meeting up with a former hugeass crush' is a reason

 

It is a huge deal if it will bother her. How serious are you with the current GF?

How would you feel if she went out to an "innocent" lunch or meetup with someone who she use to sleep with? Would it bother you?

Sorry but being in a relationship means that you have to consider your GF's feelings and go out of your way to make her not feel insecure, even if she is not a jealous person. It is a respect thing.

 

Well, you said it yourself. Plus, it's been four years, you have a girlfriend who is NOT a jealous type. Just tell her, honesty is the most important concept in any relationship.

I'd say, however, that putting off until the very last minute, or even not telling her at all, might actually make her curious as to why you didn't tell her right away. Your girlfriend knows the story anyway, and this girl is at this point a friend to you. So what's the problem? ;-)

 

dont tell her and dont make it obvious
something like that i dnt think i would wanna know if i was in a relationship
cause it will cause me to be jelous or not trust him
even tho he would let me know
i would still be uneasy bout it
just dont tell her....