My latest nude beach companion - he feels like he's cheating on his wife!

I went off to the nude beach with a married guy friend of mine. He's recently married and had wanted to take his wife to a nude beach. But he tells me after asking her several times, he could never get her to go. So after hearing this, I asked him if he'd like to come with me sometime and he quickly agreed. We had a blast (nothing sexual), but then he called me today and said he felt like he had cheated on his wife.

After learning what his wife is like (he's madly in love with her & I've never met her), she seems like the type who would enjoy going to a nude beach if she could develop the courage to go. I'd like to do what I can to either help him to not feel like he's "cheating" if he goes to the nude beach with me or somehow guide him so he can convince his wife to go. Any thoughts?

~Tina

 

Hi Tina,

i know this constellation from some similar experiences. The major fault ist, the guy should have make this clear with his wife before he meets you in the nude. Well, obviously he didn't and now you have a problem.

Maybe he feels like cheating now because he did do somdething with you he would like to do with his wife.

I guess the best way is to talk with her or with both together openly, so you can make clear thee are no ulterior motives. Maybe you can also offer to take them to the nudie beach both and this way builod a bridge for the wife to try out nudism in a "safe" way.

And i think that they both still have to learn that also in a good and firm relation there are things you can do with others without "cheating". If one likes to dance so badly and the other doesn't, you will have to look out for other dance partners. Or you will have to give up dancing and norrow the bandwith of your life apptetite. But of course this should happen in a way of mutual trust and agreement, so you will have to talk about with your partner.

I sometimes experienced severe irritations when i was nude and others did define it as a try to hook up their (alnmost male) partner. I guess in 80% an open conversation was like pouring oil on troubled water.

Good luck!

 

We had a long chat about this and he really feels bad that his wife won't go to the nude beach with him. He and I are strictly platonic, but it turns out his feeling of "cheating" is more like a guilty conscience. I've tried to convince him that there is no harm in it as long as we don't turn it into anything sexual. He's OK with it, but over the course of about a half a dozen trips to the nude beach together, he's now developing erections around me - which he didn't do when we were first going. I asked him what this means and he simply says he's comfortable around me. But I think there may be more to it than that.
~Tina