My boyfriend is so depressed and now I am too

I have been seeing this guy for three years. I am very close to him and he is the only guy I've ever been in love with. We are both 25 yrs old and have thought about getting married in a few years. Only problem is he suffers from severe depression due to chronic back pain and it's something that will never go away.

Ten years ago he had surgery on his back. It did not turn out good at all. He was too young for that type of surgery (he was 15) and his bones weren't even fully developed yet. For ten years he's been going through a lot of pain but has been coping fine.

About 1 1/2 years ago, his doctor recommended that he get some vaset injections done to his back. He got them done and not only was it incredibly painful for him, but the doctor completely screwed up, went in too deep and nicked a nerve. He now sees a different doctor who he visits monthly. His previous doctor really screwed up his back! My boyfriend will permanently have to go through a LIFETIME of chronic pain (and the pain is 10x worse than before). His new doctor prescribes him MS Contin (Morphine), Norcos (A strong vicodin) Valium, and welbutrin (anti-depressant). But that only masks his pain and doesn't make it go away. His doctor has even told him that by the time he's 30, he could be in a wheel chair and also within the next couple years he could completely be unable to have sex. He won't be able to get an erection or achieve orgasm.

It hurts his back to do anything. He can't lift more than 10 lbs without hurting his back. He can't sit down and watch a movie without hurting his back. He can't even have sex without being in pain.

We've been living together for almost a year now and its been real good. But about three months ago, he got another job. He has a lot of doctor bills to pay and a lot of debt. He needed to get another job to pay for things. But now I don't ever see him. We live together but he needs to sleep on a specific bed for his back. He only has a single size mattress and I can't connect my bed to his, so we sleep in separate rooms. Working this job to pay for his debt is really getting the best of him and hurting our relationship. He tries to work everyday just so he can become debt free. He's far from being debt free. =( He will destroy his back just so he can survive in this world. But when he comes home, he immediately goes to his room and passes out. He will be sleeping until he has to go to work again. Then he gets up and goes to work then comes home and goes back to bed. I try to wake him up but he won't get out of bed because he's in so much pain and he's depressed. On his days off, he just sleeps. We used to have sex all the time but since he started working he doesn't want to have sex. He hasn't been able to get hard and if he does, he can't cum. He thinks this is the beginning of the end of his sex life. We haven't had sex in 1 1/2 months. We don't even cuddle anymore. We both can't lay on his bed but we both tell each other we love each other daily and we do kiss each other and regularly take showers together. But all he does is sleep. I recently found out he's not even sleeping. Most of the time he lays there trying to sleep but is always woken up by his back pain. Apparently he's been only getting a couple hours of sleep a night and just lays in bed most of the time feeling like shit. He also hasn't been eating properly. He's lost a lot of weight and he can't eat. He has to force food down his throat but he is never hungry. He doesn't know why. He loves food and he's usually always hungry. He'll eat anything. it's been for the past month he hasn't been hungry and all he's been eating is apples and granola bars. That just doesn't sound healthy and it really worries me.

This has all been going on for the past three months. It drives me crazy. i hate seeing him depressed like this and it's been making me depressed. Plus he is the only person I know. I've tried making other friends but it's really hard for me to make friends around here. When I do see him, he just seems to talk about depressing stuff. He's really the only person who talks to me and all he talks about is sad stuff. I can't handle it anymore. But I do love him and i still want to spend the rest of my life with him. Even if he's in a wheelchair. But I feel like lately I've been very stressed and depressed half the time. Plus I've been getting on him a lot lately. I don't mean to because I know it's not his fault but lately I've been starting arguments with him. I'll all of a sudden get mad at him for not spending time with me. I just can't handle seeing him in this much pain. But I can't handle being away from him and I know he would go crazy if I left him. Leaving him is not an option!!! He means so much to me.