Hey My and my gf have recently started having sex, after going out for almost 7 months. We had sex a while back, but because of time restraits, we only got about 5 mins out of it. She came over again yesterday, and after a while of rolling about etc, we had both gotten undressed, and were going at it, knowing we had more time, this time around. Now, she is also very curious about anal, and she loves for me to play with her butt, and we both agreed we would wana try anal, so while we here going at it, i slipped out and lubed up her butt, and tryed to slide in. The issue i am having, is as soon as i get into her, the tightness from her butt, seems to push all of the blood out of my penis, thus causing it to go limp and flop out. This happened 4 times last night, and in the end, i just went back to her other hole, and was fine... This is a real issue as we both really wana try anal properly, but i just cant seem to stay erect when i get into her butt. Its not that it turns me off or anything, i love playing with her butt, it gets me going so much during foreplay, but when were actually going at it, and i try and get into her, i just go soft when i start to get into her. Any advice is greatly appreciated Thanks
Wow, I haven't heard that one before. Here I was thinking this was your typical, how to do anal thread, and lo and behold, a problem I have never heard of! Well, if her ass is so tight that it makes the blood go out of your cock, there are 2 options. The first is free. You need to help her to relax her ass, and teller her to relax is not going to work since the secondary sphincter in her anus is an involuntary muscle. This can be done easily and most effectively with rimming. I know it may sound gross, but your tongue in her ass is the best way for her to relax. After that you can move to fingering to dilate her ass. Make sure this is down after a good shower, and if you are scared of getting e. coli or something, have her use some good anti-bacterial soap to wash her anus. It's also a good idea to have her push out with her anus upon entry as if she is trying to void. I know it sounds contrary to inserting something, but when she pushes back with her anus is causes the outer anus ring to open up, this will make penetration a lot easier if she does this. The second option is a cock ring which is a ring that is placed around a your penis, usually at the base, primarily to slow the flow of blood from the erect penile tissue, thus maintaining erection for a longer period of time. Cock rings work by constricting blood flow, keeping blood in the shaft of the penis. As an added effect, when you cum the sensation is more intense, since it took a longer time to come, and because the penis is filled with additional blood. This should help to trap the blood in your penis and maintain an erection. I would recommend getting a good silicone one that the phthalate free. I recommend the tantus c-ring: http://tantusinc.com/mm5/merchant.mvc?Screen=CTGY&Store_Code=TD&Category_Code=FH Relaxing your girls ass should be the first thing you could try, if it still causes a problem, get a cock ring, they work, not to mention when you cum, it feel soooo, good! Another toy you might be interested in is a butt plug. This is a toy that you insert in her ass and keep it there while you eat her pussy and have vaginal sex. When the plug is in for an extended period, is causes the anal muscle to naturally relax and or gape, making penetration A LOT easier. p.s. When you use a silicone c-ring, you can't use silicone lube, as it will damage the ring since it too is made from silicone, there are metal rings but I don't recommend them. You have to use a water based if you are using a condom, or you can use a good quality thick lotion if you are bare-backing. Since I am a huge fan or natural and organic products, I recommend firefly organics: http://www.organiclubricant.com/firefly_personal_lubricant.htm The cocoa butter and shea butter work WONDERS for anal, and it's easy to clean up and works great with silicone cock rings. I use to use a product called Nude which was 100% organic, but I believe it's discontinued.
