So, I'm getting more and more uncomfortable of going out...i really feel very uncomfortable of being out there, talking with other people, making new friends, the regular stuff. I'm depressed for 3 years, but...it's like, it gets worst everyday. I only like to go out at night with my close friends to get drunk. When I'm out there I just want to go home, but being inside my house too much time can be very boring too...so what the fuck am I supposed to do?
Take up a hobby which allows you to remain at home (where you feel safe) and yet remain active; or better yet gardening, which allows you to remain at home but outside in the fresh air and sunshine Hotwater
your in a very, very bad place mate! you only go out with your close friends to get drunk. here is a kick in the gut for you... YOUR A DRUNK! YOUR "FRIENDS" ARE DRUNKS TOO! yes, you do sound quite depressed. alcohol is a depressdent... NEVER, EVER, DRINK ALCOHOL IF YOUR DEPRESSED! it is just plain self-defeating! you need to start going to a.a. meetings and, start psychotherapy with someone trained in substance abuse. you don't know what is wrong with you because, you are very, very deeply depressed. being depressed makes it hard, if not impossible to understand what is happing to you. it is due to the depression that you are more and more withdrawing from the world. i know i have been hard on you, calling you a drunk. you are in one hell of a lot of deep trouble and, i ment it as a wake up call! you must take action now for your own welfare! i hope you will do the right thing, and that means taking action.
What help are you getting for the depression? Isolating is common with depression which is either left unaddressed or is caused by a bigger mental issue. It's important to have the right support before anything else as your life is being very much adversely affected
your in a very, very bad place mate! you only go out with your close friends to get drunk. here is a kick in the gut for you... YOUR A DRUNK! YOUR "FRIENDS" ARE DRUNKS TOO! wow easy ...just because I said I only enjoyed getting to get drunk with my friends doesn't mean I get drunk every day...not even every week...and my friends are not drunks, just regular guys with jobs that like to go out at night, drink too much and smoke weed. I'm not a drunk, just depressed. See, if someone wanted to sell me some coke, I would buy it and do it, but that doesn't mean, I doing coke all the time. I still can control myself. Drugs are just...fun
No help...I don't know why. Maybe I don't have the will power to get some help. I just feel very bored and unhappy
Bored and unhappy? I think getting something to do will help. Do you play any instruments? Would it be possible to get together some people just to play for fun? Getting into something outside of your house might help
You don't always need to go hang out with people.... I don't always like going out. I usually don't go anywhere unless I'm going to jam or get high/drunk or something else.... Which is usually what I do anyway... But still.
maybe, the depression is taking over you man, and you cant let it do that no more, dont get into the demon so to speak... just go do what you wanna do. 1. What are your interests, or were your interests that made you happy before you started staying in all the time and just going out getting drunk? 2. try those out instead of spending all your days inside and your nights drinking. im in the same spot, cept i hate drinking... i understand man, its hard to get the willpower to do something, thats why you just gotta do it.
I would not listen to most of the advice in this thread and I would actually see a psychologist, preferably one that doesn't want to give you lots of drugs.
Been in the exact same situation. This is what worked for me 1. New hobby. I started playing sports again. 2. A break from the same people. Sometimes simple monotony is the answer to your depression. I hated seeing the same people's faces all the time. 3. Found confidence. New hair, clothes, skin peels or bloody liposuction, whatever the person needs. Confidence really helps reinvest yourself with people and being out and about.
well if your bored what I recommend is you take up exercise. start lifting weights or take up running. it will make it so you get naturally relaxed and enjoy chilling rather than get bored when you just chilling. next off since you don't like going out to much I recommend you start reading books. trust me if you don't already read and you think reading is lame or whatever don't cus you'd be suprised how mentally calming and entertaining it can be if you find a book of your liking. and yes it might take some searching to find some books of your interest but the key is to have patience and remember some books start out slow and then get better. now about the depression part. uhhhh the key is to just tell you mind to shut up. remember you choose to think what you think. you just gotta let go relax and forget about those negative thoughts. there's no inbetween it's either you think those thoughts or you don't so you can choose to enjoy yourself or not enjoy yourself plain and simple.
Ayahuasca comes to mind as a good idea my friend. Go to maya-ethnobotanicals.com, and get 500g Caapi and 50g Mimosa, and separate into 10 doses, and take 2 doses a week. Trust me, it is worth a try at lest, you have no more than $75 to lose. That and your ego. And think about it, you probably spend more than that in a month on alcohol. And it is MUCH better than alcohol. Scary at first maybe, but hey, no pain no gain. Just check this out: http://www.nationalgeographic.com/adventure/0603/features/peru.html On National Geographic of all places... Oh, and you don't NEED a shaman. Just read Pablo Amiringo's book, he recommends isolation! PS: I don't blame you for hating going out and drinking, it sucks, bad vibes.
