I recently became quite 'intimate' with the girl I've liked for a while. Now, we aren't officially boyfriend and girlfriend, but I'd say it'd be quite rude of either of us to get close to other people. We're both 16. Last Saturday, she came over to my house and we were both alone and started to make out, and I began to maneuver my hands down her pants. She stopped me and said "Not tonight, but there's a specific reason for that." I assumed she was talking about her period, so I just ignored doing that for the rest of the night. The next day she mentioned she was having cramps, so I was right. We've only made out twice, so this is how far we've come. I asked her if she was comfortable with me doing that, said it was fine and liked how I was confident about it. Although this seems to be an answer, I feel like maybe it is too early to do that. She told me that she's never been fingered before, so this is why I feel that way. So I was thinking, the next time we start making out, should I attempt to finger / digitally stimulate her? Thanks in advance!
hmmm welll hmmm its a tough one cause yous are only 16, shes never been fingered. but at the same time, looks as if that if u did go for it she would go with it, and let u do it to her. u could always talk to her more about this sort of thing.
wait and see if she grabs your dick first, if not just make out. then try to go south a few sessions later.
You're not "officially" boyfriend and girlfriend? What, do you think you are gonna get a certificate?
Well, if she's actually willing to take that step with you and is comfortable about it, then I would honour that gesture if I were you. BUT, make absolute sure you're gentle with her, take your time, go slow, communicate with her OFTEN(ask her if she's alright, if she's feeling any discomfort, and so on, so forth), and please DO start with ONE finger first. Actually, encourage her to insert her own finger(s) as a way of practice so that she could get more comfortable with the whole idea as well. This may also promote the "stretching" of her hymen(is hers is intact) rather than tearing it, and thus you guys might be able to minimize the discomfort that very often comes with the first-time sex...if/when you two get to that stage. In the meantime, pay attention to her reactions, and COMMUNICATE before, during, and after your mutual masturbation sessions. All the best!
yes yes yes communicate!!!! first time i was fingered.... well i didn't like it at all. it didn't feel good and it kinda hurt. but i didn't want him to think i didn't want to be intimate with him because i did. so i didn't say anything. it's perfectly normal for both of you to be hesitant about this sort of thing. i say both of you make sure that it's what you want and well..... are you a virgin? because that makes a difference if it's both of your first time then i say wait a bit longer especially if you're not OFFICIAL. because relationships at your age are hard enough as it is you don't need to jump right into sex and such. because it doesn't make anything easier in fact it can ruin things some times. good luck. have fun. be safe. wear a condom. (oh and cuddle and talk with her afterwords it's a nice gesture) kush =]
i was just kidding, bro.... here is some real advice, though... it might be beneficial to stray away from the conventional thinking about relationships. be your best self and be around people who bring out your best self. labels are unimportant, and though they may feel secure, they are never airtight. so just do you(to the maX!) and don't hold back, or you might regret something. also, needing to be labeled bf/gf to progress the relationship is kinda clingy, desperate, or insecure. thats my opinion.
