So I have never been able to orgasm with out my clitoris stimulated. I can't just have sex or masterbate with out the stimulation and actually get off. It bothers me, and my husband. Alot currently has to do with ovarian cysts (very painfull when he's deep)(cause he's too large). Does anyone have any pointers? We try many positions, places and different things but I just can't get off.
its estimated that only about 30 percent of women can reach orgasm from penetration alone. this is normal and not anything to worry about. if he's anything like me, though, he loves giving oral sex....imo every lovemaking session should start with cunnilingus.... try positions designed to aid in g spot stimulation, and try a vibrator designed for hitting the g spot on your own to get more accustomed to how to get it just right. the majority of the clitoris is internal, only a tiny bit protrudes. the g spot is where the clitoral body is closest to the vaginal wall, so for some women theres more or less flesh blocking it. you may or may not be able to get off this way, but its definitely worth a try - g spot stimulation IS clitoral stimulation if all else fails, most guys wont mind sharing their lover with her vibrator. let him penetrate you and enjoy it for what it is, but also please yourself at the same time. everyone wins!
We use many toys to stimulate the clitoris during sex, and to aid anal sex so it doesn't hurt me as much. I will look into positions that hit the g spot. Thanks nesta! ps. I've always wanted to go to Fraggle Rock
If you look at the fact that penis starts out as a clitoris and then it's not surprising that clit is a number one sex spot for most of the women as penis if for men. Till 7th week we all look the same. You can try Wikipedia for the whole clitoris - it's amazing. If you'll come form urethral sponge's (g-spot) stimulation alone it will be similar feat to your husband getting off with prostate stimulation alone. Those structures come from the same source too. While it would no doubt be pleasurable and fun, would he be disappointed if it didn't happen for him? Probably not much. And you shouldn't be too in case it doesn't work for you.
You are perfectly normal. As Nesta said only a third or less of women can get off via penetration. My wife of over 45 years has never had an orgasm any other way.
