American women, did you learn growing up...

...that you had to be willing to dress and act more sexually than you wanted to to advance in society?

This is research I'm doing for a sociology project. Thank you very much for all answers.

 

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i didnt vote btw.

 

Thanks anyway.:cheers2:

 

Nope. I had enlightened parents but others may not have been so fortunate.

I fear I'm less likely to get a job if I were to dress 'that way'. I mean, it'd cost me all credibility. If I were a hot chick that might be another story. Sadly!

 

My parents never encouraged me to do those things. However, while growing up I noticed the prettier girls getting basically everything they wanted. After awhile, I dressed differently and flirted more and I got so much more attention. I got more days off, and work was more lenient.

 

I put my girlfriend's answer. "ermmm... no? I dress and act the way I want to" was her full response. She seemed to find the question rather surprising.

 

yep, good ol public school...just the way it goes..

 

I get the feeling most of us agree that our parents encouraged us to be strong women who didn't depend on sexuality to be successful. But then the media chimes in...

 

My parents taught me that being a good student was the key to future success in the job market, but my peers taught me that social success in high school and college was all about appearance. It's two separate things. Most girls who dress sexy don't wear that stuff to work, or to a job interview.

On the other hand, I think it would be a mistake for an attractive woman to dress bland and frumpy every day at work. You have to use good judgment about it. There's a line that you can't cross and maintain credibility, and you have to know where it is.

 

I was taught that there was a difference between sexy and slutty. One can still look very sexy without dressing sexually. I also learned from observing others at school, and now at work that acting sexually doesn't get you very far, unless you deem recieving the title of "slut" a success. The woman at my workplace who dress overtly sexy usually aren't taken very seriously.

 

No, not at all. Even if I was tempted to, I never did.

 

Yes and no. I was a teenager of the 90's. So I was into the grunge thing with my friends and we all dressed in ripped jeans and flannels. I personally didn't WANT male attention at that age (for other reasons) and even though I still got it I never felt the need to dress sexy. Of course that was 20 years ago, way before Brittany Spears was dancing on stage in a sexy school girl uniform. I think today young women get that from society in general. But I do remember when I was about 13 I wore a shirt without a bra and commented to my mother that I was "nipping". Haha. Her response: That's Ok, guys like that sort of thing. I've always remembered that but I still to this day dress for the most part in jeans and tee's with my little green chucks or checkered vans. But I do feel the need to look sexy on certain occasions....like on dates. But I do it in a very low key sort of way. No cleavage, no bum hanging out. But just.....enough to keep 'em guessing.

 

Not at all

 

I got a job opportunity stolen right out from under my feet by a pair of tits. It wasn't a killer job or anything, but still.

I'd been talking to this manager at Denny's for a few weeks about being a server there. 'd come in every few days and eat and talk to him. He kept saying something will probly open up in a week or so.

Well anyway, I was eating there one time and a really hot chick with ridiculous tits came in and asked for an application. The manager sat down with her while she filled it out and basically gave her an interview. She was a total idiot. By the end, he had given her the job, right in front of me, after I'd been asking for weeks.

 

I think a girl would only be raised sexual if daddy wanted a piece

 

When we go away to college, Daddy doesn't get a vote anymore.

 

I've gotten a job that way(not on purpose) but I was dressed in a tight skirt and top and with NO experiance landed a server job. I KNEW it was becuase of how I looked. The boss was a jackass anyway. He hired all these hot girls who came into work high and did a horrible job. I atleast worked sober. Our chain ended up closing down. Our best waiter was a guy...he could come to work totally high and still take on a party of 20 with no trouble. On the other hand, anytime I've been interviewed by a female I NEVER get the job. If it's a man I have always gotten the job. It sucks cause I just interviewed for a much needed job that I was over qualified for and a woman interviewed me and ......she called to tell me they filled the position.....blah!

 

society and media teaches women that sex appeal ---> success

 

I was raised in a very conservative homeschooled Christian atmosphere, with my father away on a semi-truck 25 days a month. We were expected to go to college, because that's where you go to find good husbands. Degrees were back-up plans. When my little sister and I hit puberty, my sister became an amazingly attractive girl. I was the nerdy fat chick. Our educations suddenly differed. She learned (from adults in the church, including our mother) that all she ever needed to be was beautiful and she'd get a nice Christian man who would take care of her. I was told that I could really be pretty if I would just try, but since I was so stubborn I would have to get a degree and get used to being lonely.

No, Dad didn't know about this. When my sister got married to a boy from the church and tried to drop out of school, he was devastated and she was confused by his reaction. After all, this is what a good girl dreams of. Mom was so proud of her. Me, I developed a rebellious streak, and by the time I hit college I was a punkergoth running around with stoners and anarchists. Mom thinks I've wasted my useful years on this. Dad is confused by me, but I think I'm the daughter he respects more because I actually told them both to piss off once. That, and I married one of the anarchist stoners. He's a business major in a suit now (plotting the destruction of the system from inside), and my sister's husband is on management track for the local video game store.

Now, I dress and act very sexual. I think it's because my during my teenaged years sexuality was something that was demanded without choice. Success was attracting a man whom the church approved of. I converted, and turned it into a source of fun for me and few others.

Sexuality can be a bit of a problem, as with my last job: I found out that while I had three years of experience in the field, my chest got me hired and access to that chest was the measure of my job security. I indulged my love of baked potatoes for the first few months of the job and gained 10 pounds, while being the best employee the hotel had seen in years. The manager was furious, because he was stuck with a "cow" in his eyes, but the customers loved me and he had no grounds to fire me. MUAHAHAAAA! My husband liked the extra curves too, but I got rid of them after I quit (and after a huge harassment scandal!). I win.

 

Way to go girl!!!

Yeah, my parents taught me to be like the exact opposite, be as conservative as possible, and of course the media has definitely taught me different. I think a good balance is probably healthy. And I know girls are able to be hired a lot easier if they've got some stuff.