This summer my friend inadvertenly introduced me to a girl. She almost came in my house, but my dad was up, and we had to play the whole thing off. Anyway, from there on I talked to her in text messages, and then ended up seeing her in person. A lot of shit went down during the first few days we hung out, and the last time I hung out with her we were all high & semi-drunk. I went to her room, and was trying to get some action. Not really forcing anything, but trying to make it happen. I did end up fingering her, and she was really wet and moved my hand around a lot to make it feel better for her, but that's pretty much as far as it got. Now, I really like the girl and all, and just recently I told her how I actually felt, but she didn't have a response at the time which is cool, and doesn't worry me because it was something I knew she wasn't expecting. She does have a boyfriend, and I'm a pretty shy person, but we talked about her boyfriend deal where she says she felt like it wasn't going to last, and after the night I spent with her it was almost a 180 flip, like she didn't like me. I sort of think she only said anything negative because she has a boyfriend, so I did back off for a while before I said anything recently. I'm still confused as to whether or not she did/does like me, or not, and if anything can be pursued. I've had similar situations where I had a good feeling and it didn't work out, and I can't honestly say this is different, but I would like to have a different outcome for a change. Thoughts?
Either she's playing games or playing sides. Or isn't sure what happened that night and only thinks of you as a friend. Or less. If she really liked and cared for you and wanted to be with you, she'd do what was needed to make it happen. It's obvious she's having thoughts of leaving her current significant other, if you can even call him that, but she may not be sure how to "move on" but is willing. If she can't break it off and make a choice, then, you can either wait for her to come around or just look elsewhere for someone else that doesn't have drama attached.
The one thing that doesn't make me think she's playing games is that things got that far, and she said she didn't want to cheat, and you guys may be against this, but something went down with her & my friend before I started seriously talking to her, but she wasn't involved with anyone at all then, so I'm inclined to believe her. He's been helping me out with her, and really encouraged me to stop being a scary pussy and go over her house with him, and I'm glad it did. I'm going to text her tomorrow and see if I can garner a response as to what I told her a couple days ago. The thing is, I haven't really been looking for anyone like I used to after what happened with her. Not because I'm down on my luck or anything, but just because for some reason I've had a feeling I shouldn't. I'm hoping it all goes well, and if I get a bad response, I'll unfortunately have to move on to someone else. And thanks for the response.
Sounds tough... she could have wanted to do things with you, that night at her house, then afterwards felt bad for doing that to her boyfriend and the guilt is making it hard for her to talk to you. I was in a similar situation with a guy friend of mine (who has made advances at me in the past, but I sort of blew them off because he was just a friend).. anyway now he has a girlfriend, for a whileeee now, and a few weeks ago I was dropping him off and he asked me to pull over and we started kissing and stuff. After that he didn't hangout with our group of friends for like a week and I'm pretty sure it's because he felt bad about it. I've seen him since and it's all okay with us, we talked just like friends all over again.. but he was definitely weird at first. You know what I'm saying? Maybe she just feels bad, or feels like she has feelings for you but can't act on them RIGHT now. What do you look like Joker anywa? I'm curious, post a picture.
And I get what you're saying, and it's entirely possible. She's seemed to be having a few problems with him, but I never try to exasberate those problems to force a break up or anything. I'm just hoping I get a good response from her tomorrow...
Lol, not a Yankees fan. I asked her what she thought about what I told her, and she didn't respond, so I don't know if I should've waited or if that's my answer.
Oh well...can't get hung up on one person that didn't go the distance. I'll do what I have to do: keep moving.
