hello folks, i'm curious. how long can mothers have a long healthy sex right after birth? will it hurt during sexual intercourse? i'm about to become a mother and i'd like to know in advance. thx.
Usually at least 6 weeks is what most OB/GYNs and midwives recommend. Let me tell you from personal experience, for some crazy reason, I was rearing to go almost immediately after the birth of our oldest son. My husband and I waited only around a week and a half. Very, very stupid. It hurt horribly, I mean, it was bad, and I ended up with a severe infection at the episiotomy site because I ended up tearing the stitches. Can we say ouch? Needless to say, when I had my twins (I delivered one twin vaginally and the other by cesarean) I definitely waited the full 6 weeks.
4-6 weeks depending on how the childbirth goes. i had a pretty easy labor with my 1 daughter so it was only a few weeks. but i delivered my 2nd daughter all natural without any drugs,got stitches in 2 places and it took 10 weeks before i was good to go. you should be fine in 4-6 as long as u let the dr do his job and take whatever help they offer.congratulations. hope all goes good.
There are more reasons to wait than just physical. I know how hard it is to wait after having a baby to become intimate with your partner, but considering all of the chemical/emotional/mental/hormonal changes your body is going through, it's good to wait. Nursing mommas have a different hormonal hookup than other mommas. That connection with your infant will cause your vagina to produce less lubracation, and you'll be overall more motherly. Basically, you'll be so engrossed in the new-momma vibe, sex isn't going to be as pleasurable, and nature makes sure of that! Not to mention, with the lack of sleep you'll be getting and all the new responsibilities, just cuddling before going to sleep is good enough intimacy until you three settle into your new life as a family. Trust me. We waited a little bit, but it was so worth it. Absence makes the heart grow fonder, ya know?
i would like to thank all of your responses. it helped me to ease mind and physical. i hope this will help me to lead into a wonderful motherhood. take care!
Sex doesn't have to be penetrative. There are lots of other ways to have sex - and I am sure you know what I mean. You don't have to wait a minute after giving birth to have sex. If you feel like it, do it. But avoid vaginal intercourse.
i think it depends a lot on whether or not you have an episiotomy or tear. my hubz and I waited 4 weeks after and it was fine(well, better than expected) and i had had an episiotomy. but if you want to be absolutely safe wait until your doc gives you the ok.
