I've been (consciously) bisexual for about 3 years now, and have actually been having sex with guys for about 2. Before this and currently, I had lots of sex with girls. And many romantic relationships, where I felt a very strong emotional connection and even love. And while I am physically attracted to both sexes, I've never even come close to feeling anything romantic towards a guy. My personality is pretty masculine, and meshes perfectly with girls. Even guys that I've hooked up with many many times have never made me feel the kind of attachment, emotionally, that I feel towards girls. I'm only 21, so I know that this could possibly change in the future, but right now it hasn't. So I'm just curious, how many of you guys feel romantically towards guys? Do you feel the same towards women, or is it just for physical pleasure? Or maybe you feel romantically attached to both? Keep in mind, I don't mean that I've never had an emotional connection with a guy. But the kind of relationships I've had with guys are very platonic on the surface--we talk to each other as if we're just really good friends, which is no doubt a valid connection. But I've never had a desire to date guys, nor have I ever felt like I was falling in love. I have a girlfriend of over a year that I absolutely love--I could never imagine having these same feelings towards a guy. So, what's up with y'all?
I feel about equally romantic toward men and women, and am about twice as physically attracted to men as women. Well, I mean... if you gave me a lineup of about 15 men and 15 women and I could have half of them, I'd probably want twice as many men as women. But there will likely be a woman I find more attractive than some of the men. Depending on the quality of the guys, there may be a woman I'd want more than any of them. But if all of the people were considered attractive, I'd pick twice as many men. It's complicated! But who would I be likely to fall in love with? I think women would have just as good a chance as any of the guys.
I am totally in love with men. The guys I have dated were all guys' guys No drama, no bitching, easy, laid back, ready to have sex at a drop of a hat... Sure, not ALL men are like this, but this is what gets me going. And this is what makes me love them.
This is one I'm not sure about. How is bisexuality defined? Is it when one has sex with both genders, or truly loves and is attracted to both? The purely physical attraction is an unusual one. It may just mean you've found anal sex gets you off. Which means you have nerve endings around there that cause arousal. That means you are a human. And also means you were curious enough to find this. The fact you chose a man to arouse them could just mean you saw the obvious tool and were open minded. The fact a girl could do it with a strap-on also, means you may be scared to ask with a girl and be more comfortable with guys because of this lack of emotional vulnerability. As strange as it may be, you may be protecting part of your male pride by labelling yourself bi. It means you can fit in somewhere having interests in these things. Society accepts it, and feels somewhat comfortable with it. The problem is, sexuality is not a club. If you run from a girl to a guy, it is probably because she is not open enough for you, and takes little interest in your sexual interests, not because you are bi. The ideal here is a girl who is open minded and into the same things as you. Then you have connection, love, etc. and both types of sexual fulfilment.
I am exactly like you, but with women. I feel more connected with men most of the time, and I like girls mostly as friends.
