someone please take the time and read.

so right now i have a job that is making little money because i am going to college. i am still living at home for free, my parents are really nice people. the only thing is that i have a car that i can't pay them for right now, and i need it to get to work and school, and just for social convenience. i made bad choices, crashed a car, had to have my parents pick me up in the middle of night at a park due to an run in with the cops, and just being a young adult, doing my thing.

recently i toned it down alot and have been chilled due to my parents having a curfew on the car. recently though they have let me take it out past curfew. tonight i got home and have been working good a solid 3days and i wanted to just go to my friends and say whats up. it was at 9:30 and my dad was gone and my mom was asleep. so i just took the car until 10:30. i thought my dad would be cool about it and just call me when if he was curious/worried. sadly, when i got home my dad stormed into my room and asked me why i took the car without asking. i told him the truth, and he asked why i took it without asking when i know the rules already. and i said i understood, but i thought he could have just called me if it was a problem.

he quickly and sternly said "I should'nt have to call you, you know the rules." and i said yes , i do, but i didn't think it was a big deal or something, because i was in complete shock i forgot what was really said, but it was roughly that. and he said now i need to have more privileges took away.

this just happened, and we're going to talk about it with my mom tomorrow im guessing. im really stressing though because i understand the rules, but i dont know why i have to be the one to call him? authority ridden asshole is what it seems like. and i truthfully didnt think it was going to be a big deal.

can anyone give me an unbiased outsider's view on this?

 

in his eyes you knew their rules about the car. you broke the rule for a piss poor reason (to see a friend.)
you should have either awaken your mother, and told her what you were doing or, given him a call.
you took the action without checking it out with one of them.
you show poor judgment in what you did.
in your dad eyes you now must pay the price for your poor judgment.

 

Ever heard of giving an inch and taking a mile?

Your dad is not such a prick really.

 

wow, i honestly still think it is some lame shit. and i slept on it/barely slept because it worried me too much. i really didnt think it would be a problem or i wouldn't have done it, i dont want to be in trouble with them any longer. the rules were put on me a year ago at that, i thought if anything they would be taking off the stipulations soon, especially since i have been able to take the car out past curfew and even had the opportunity to keep it out over night.

 

punch him in the face while he sleeps

 

haha. i don't want to harm my dad.

 

they might have given you greater freedom soon, if you had not screwed up.
let me ask you this. did you have to ask them, if it would be alright, for you to use the car after curfew or, over night?
if you did have to ask... there is your answer. if not, then your parents dropped the ball with their rules and, they both failed you and themselves.

your young and, you may not have learned this yet. in life, in your realtionships with others, you will need to touch bases with them before, you go and do things. this will be most true with your lover and your boss. if you don't then, you have dropped the ball at keeping, the line of communication between you and them open... if you are going to take an action you must talk to them first!
that is why your dad was upset, when you did not tell your mother or, called him about what you were doing.

this is just how social relationships works between people.
i don't know your dad yet, from what you have said, he does not sound like a total asshole.
your dad, might be feeling quite hurt right now because, you have let him down, by breaking their rules and, the actions he may have to take with you.
you made a mistake in what you did. learn from it and seek not to repeat it.

 

thanks for the suggestions. it ended up blowing over with no real problems, just more of the i know i did mess up and definitely shouldn't do it again