...relationship help post. well, i don't need help as much as I would like to hear opinions. i've posted shit here before...about the same person actually...so heres another! -_-; here's what i need an opinion of...WHY DO YOU THINK GUYS HAVE TO FUCK WITH OUR HEADS! OR EVEN GIRLS THAT FUCK WITH GUYS HEADS!? GOD! I SHOULD BE HAPPY RIGHT NOW BUT I'M NOT...ALL I HAVE IS THIS WEIRD FEELING OF ANXIETY AND "WHAT THE FUCK?" ok, storytime. i went over my ex's house, where we watched tv at first and played video games, hardly even looked at each other. then, after his parents went on to bed, we drove down the road in my car to get high. ok, we get back to the house, watch sum more tv. and you know, little by little we're talking more, then start playing around with some pens and keys and shit, throwing them at each other, uh...pretty much acting like two stoned idiots...then we have a pillow fight, not hitting each other, we were trying to hoard all the pillows and try to take them away and...god it sounds so stupid but it was fun...-_-;...im pathetic.......anyway, after i start coming down and im almost sure he was too, we started to get closer to each other. like, holding hands, he was petting my hair...it was mostly him doing that kinda stuff to me, i just let him go on...i guess cuz i kept thinking "he was the one that broke up with me a while back, i'll just see where he wants to take this" well i should say it got no further than making out............but, it made me feel happy, to have him again like this, then it also made me feel sad because i was also thinking, "maybe hes just acting like this cuz hes stoned and/or horny...or does he want me back?" i was very confused. so, we fall asleep and the next morning we're cuddling together to keep warm and then before i left to come home he kissed me again.....but he didnt say anything to me about getting together again..................i waited for him to SAY something, i'd rather him not imply with his actions when i'm so confused. well that's it, what do you think? i really want to be with him, he's special.....and i should say we didnt have any problems between the two of us before we broke up. the reasons for that happening were beyond our control, yet it was so stupid and it shouldve never happened. it was basically because my parents hate him and dont want me near him...its complicated, so i just want opinions on what happened last night.........
I think that I don't have the time for head games like that. Whenever I'm in a situation like that, I just come out and ask.
I agree 100%. Take control back by not playing the game with him. You want him, you should tell him. If he doesn't see it that way, isn't he using you and do you want that?
I used to be in the same exact situation. And not just once. Many times. It was like going back to an old habit, that you personally would have never got rid of if it were up to you. I remember he always seemed so into me and we too got stoned and did the stupid stuff ever and had a blast. Then it turned into kissing and such waking up with each other. Me always being confused what the hell is this. Him never saying anything, but every time he seen me he dropped everything and ran right to me. He was playing head games with me. Once I realized that it was just kind of fun and a habit, I got over it. I also had some ladys hating me because I suppose he had some girlfriends at some partys I showed up to when he ran over and spent the rest of the night with me. But it never really meant anything for the two of us. But I would just flat out ask him, so you don't have to wonder all the time. No head games. They are just so annoying and I hate them.
so you broke up for reasons you had no control over or did you allow the reasons to brake you up if you choose to blame the reasons, then you are messing with yours and his mind ,for not standing up for your love for each other, no one should have the right to end some one eles relationship if you are of an age to be serious... i would step back maybe talk this through with the guy,even admit to your family that you must still have feelings for him and you are going to be open about how he feels, i dont believe the smoke could only bring on his and your behaviour... but its up to you ,you have to make a choice or leave it as it is,which seems to be confussing you . let him know how you feel used maybe and ,ask him how he feels then make a choice. to be stronge. but i see why maybe ,the head game is easier to handle than the heart at the min ,because you maybe dont care because he hurt you so,take a good look at what you need ,and what someone may need from you ..love..truth..understanding. love n peace good luck from saff
