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Discussion in 'Mental Health' started by lootfish, Oct 19, 2009.

  1. lootfish

    lootfish Member

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    hi... right now, im so low that when i get up, i have no desire to do anything, this empitiness is so bad that its like i cant breathe, i dont wanna live and i dont wanna die. i strangle the life out of anything i like. ive given up on advice, but has anyone else been that low that they can relate to not wanting to live or die, or do anything, for a loooong time, and then had a sense of healing to the point of feeling some joy? i post here because although this part is called "mental health" i know there are posters here with more holistic views.
     
  2. CherokeeMist

    CherokeeMist Senior Member

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    yes i have felt this way at times, i think most people have.

    the nature of the feeling is feeling like it's going to last forever, which is never true with anything. as much as it probably doesn't matter to hear it, just try to remember that it will pass, that eventually things won't be like that any more.

    emptiness feeds emptiness. even if you don't care, try to establish some sort of routine and some way to keep yourself busy and active. try working on your diet or exercising. it will definitely take time but don't let yourself get stuck in that, because it's very easy to keep doing nothing when you're feeling down, and doing nothing isn't good for you and will contribute to your being down.
     
  3. Fingermouse

    Fingermouse Helicase

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    Hiya,

    I'm sorry to hear you're in "the hole" at the moment. It's a deep dark pit and you're so far down you can't even see the light at the top. No desire to climb, but if you were to, it would take SO much energy before you got to the top and you don't believe it possible. Does that sound kind of familiar?

    I have had severe depression as a symptom of PTSD for the past 4 years of my life. Yes, mostly I have sat here exactly as you described, not wanting anything much, sometimes wanting to die, rarely opening the curtains. The good news is we can climb out of the hole, and I have made huge progress on my journey upwards

    It is hard. It does take that energy and commitment. But we can do it, because deep down we DO want to. We are worth far more and life is precious, time is short
    I've begun talking to people again, making myself leave the house at least once a day, setting myself a routine. I have even joined a support group in the area and met new people that share my problem. Eventually, I will become so well that I can get my career back on track. This I know for sure. As it is, yes, I often feel joy now

    I know you're not after advice, but just incase you could use a little
    I have found as cherokee said forcing yourself into a routine helps. Write a list before bed each night of what you are going to achieve tomorrow. Don't put pressure on, but do tick them off as you do them and feel accomplished. Anything, even if it's as small as doing some cleaning, helps. Anything you don't complete can go onto the list for the next day, and so on

    The more you push, you will eventually begin to feel better. The more do, the more you'll want to do. It really can be done

    Don't allow yourself to become too isolated if this is an issue for you. Seek out company, even online company helps, but nothing compares to meetings in person or a talk on the phone

    Also, be kind to yourself. Treat yourself. Don't let guilt or anything take over

    Know that you're not alone, thousands of people have the same issue (mine has ben particularly severe and I went untreated for years. You do NOT have to be like this for years. You can change now)

    Good luck
     
  4. FireflyInTheDark

    FireflyInTheDark Sell-out with a Heart of Gold

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    I've felt this. I still do from time to time, but rather than panic and dig myself down deeper, I just chill out and tell myself it will pass. Maybe brew some calming tea and mellow out for a bit. "This too shall pass" is pretty much the mantra of my life. I think it's the most important thing you can learn. I was on antidepressants for a while until I was forced to quit them (bad reaction- seizure). Seeing the world that way- without my anxiety and depression- showed me what it's really like out there when you're not burdened by this disease. Once I realized my perception had been altered, it was easier to go back once I got off of the meds and tell myself "it's not as bad as it seems to me- these feelings come and go, but I know the truth- that the world is beautiful and I have to do my part to help make it a little brighter even if I can't stop all of the bad in the world- it will make a difference to myself and those around me if I don't add to the pain."
    I also have a well-developed sense of entitlement to happiness that I think everyone should nurture in themselves. :)
    "Smile! You deserve it!" is another mantra of mine.
    Sometimes it pays to run away from a bad thought that's not going to take you anywhere but down. Thank goodness for google image search... I've chased away more bad moods simply by typing in "wtf". :p
    Of course it's not always that easy. Times like that, all you can tell yourself is "this too shall pass."
     
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