*Disclaimer - I need to describe in vague detail an experience I had, so please don't be offended by any language I use* Tonight I had my first gay experience, it was with a mutual friend that I don't know that well but I wanted to try it anyway because lately I've been feeling more and more attracted to men. We started off with a lot of touching and groping and making out, then he gave me head. I was hard and I kind of liked it, but after nearly half an hour I could not cum. He tried jacking me off for a while but that didn't work either. I finished him off, apologized, and went on my way. I've gone all the way with girls before and never had problems, and it's not like I couldn't get hard, I just couldn't get off. I can get off to gay porn, so I don't understand what happened tonight. He said he'd have another go with me if I wanted it, and I might, but as it stands, am I just attracted to guys, but maybe not enough to have sexual relations with them? Please, if anyone has had similar experiences, let me know what you think.
I'd think the key word in what you described isn't "gay" but rather "first". When dealing with first-time sexual experiences, it can happen that a man can't finish with the same kind of forceful and beautiful ejaculation he might experience while masturbating. It's something that can happen from tension or expecting too much from yourself... it happens to straight as well as gay or bi people, and as soon as you're able to just let go of tension or anxiety of the type of "Please, God, let me function", it'll be no problem to experience a wonderful, intense and very wet orgasm. I know that it worked for me this way. Good luck, have fun and enjoy, wiggling a bi lover's toes, ~*Ganesha*~
Your not comftorable with it yet. You are when you are alone jerking off, not with another man yet. I would do it again and maybe explain the situation with him, that alone will help you relax
It's all about being comfortable. It was new 4 u and has stigmas attached ya know? Give it a little time man, and I bet You'll be very satisfied!
Like I have said be4 I am a trans-gender chick. Have not had surgery yet but love sex nonetheless man lol! I can be top or bottom but prefer bottom. I pass good as a woman pretty naturally. Anyways babes, I would like 2 chat with anyone interested. p e a c e
You just didn't. Sometimes you do, sometimes you don't. Whether it is with a man, women, porn, we've all had those times. If the attraction is there, just try again. Nothing to do with being comfortable usually, you will know that by your second encounter. Or then maybe your third, who knows.
sometimes it is hard to cum for me too, and it's mostly when I want it the most. I think you might have been distracted/nervous/uncomfortable.
Despite all the wisdom that we all derive from the usual porn, some sexual encounters do end without an orgasm (and/or ejaculation). This is just a fact of life. There are many possible reasons. And the best way to deal with this is simply to accept the fact that at times, you won't get there where you want to be, no matter how hard you try. It also makes a lot of sense to stop making determined plans and scenarios when it comes to sex. You get going and try to give and get some pleasure and satisfaction. If you are in reasonable shape, both mental and physical, for the most part, you'll get your rocks off, and move on. Ever so often, you won't. Sex is not always crowned with an orgasm. Or even with an ejaculation. When it comes to oral sex, the matter gets even more complicated. You receive a certain amount of stimulation which may suffice to keep you hard but which in some cases may not lead to ejaculation. If this happens, (and it does actually more often than most people will admit), people tend to start panicking that they are underperforming. The more they panic the lesser chance they have. The harder they try the worse it gets. I have had several f buddies over the years. We must have somehow connected since our relationships lasted for at least a year or even much longer. For the most part, we both did reach our climax at some point, at times, went for the seconds, and made sure we met up again. Ever so often, one of us did not get there! When this happened to one of my buddies, I reasoned that I must have done something wrong. When we got going again, he shot loads, and I got nowhere. I knew that he was as good as always. He did not do anything wrong. I concluded that there are no guarantees in life for virtually anything. You get going, and hope for the best. In 99.9% of cases you also get it to. And then, in that .1% you get little more than some exchange of tenderness or whatever you want to call it. You shrug with your shoulders and move on.
