Hi everyone! I need some help. I don't know what to do anymore and I just need complete outsiders advice...please don't share any negative/unhelpful comments. So, here's the story: I met this guy about 4 months ago. I met him online and we used to just text message or talk on the phone all the time. We decided to meet. We got along very well from day one. The first time we met was at his place (yeah, not very safe...but that's not the point). We watched some tv and ended up making out a little. It was nice. After that we started seeing each other more and getting to know each other much more and he told me he had been divorced for a year or almost a year and that he can't be in a relationship. I was fine with it cos I didn't really care about him like that during the first month and a half. One day while we were hanging at his place he did something that made my heart skip a beat and I just felt something I hadn't felt for a looooong time. (Cos I don't get crushes on people very easily at all...it's really tough for me to like people....I've never even been in a relationship because I don't settle for just anyone...) I was freaked out cos I was getting nervous around him now and when we made out it was more intense in my head than it was. I finally ended up telling him that these feelings had developed but that I wasn't trying to tell him so that we go on to the "next level" and be in a relationship. He said that he likes me too but that he is not at all ready to be in a relationship. That he's messed up and he just can't do it. I said okay and we just continue to be friends and mess around. I broke down on him one day and told him I couldn't do this anymore and to please leave me alone for a while...he didn't listen and he kept texting me. I couldn't ignore him for too long and we're back to where we started...except now we know each other more and we've cut back a lot on texting each other. We still mess around (no sex at all!) and we hang out... Now my problem is, I've tried so hard to kill these feelings but I just can't. We talk and see each other often. I don't understand what he's doing. I'm starting to feel used. I want to end this but I don't want to lose him. I really like him and really care about him. He's been in a lot of pain since the divorce stuff and I understand that divorce is a really intense thing to go through. He's a pretty sensitive guy too. ::sigh:: I don't know what to do anymore because now I want more with him...but I know he's not in that mindset at all. Sometimes I think it's our age difference (I'm 5 years younger than he and sometimes he says he feels guilty about that...which sucks cos i think it's great... we're both adults and i like older guys..) What do I do? Did I screw this all up by continuing to go over his place and messing with him? Should I just completely stop all that? Is it too late? Should I keep being there for him and wait? I'm so sad...please help. Tell me something! Thanks for reading. Curious_J
