If You or you partner doesn't have an orgasm during penetrative sex, why do you continue to have sex? Does he/she help you to orgasm after? Or do you give yourself an orgasm on your own? Does your partner really know that you don't cum? Blissykris
intercourse=orgasm/ejaculation is only one model of healthy sex. as long as both partners are satisfied, even not having an orgasm is OK. Typically, vaginal sex is not a reliable way to orgasm for women having sex with men. various parts of the play leading up to penetrative sex can induce orgasms for men and women. I've had perfectly wonderful sessions where I did not have a physical orgasm. That is not to say it is not a preference.
good lord, explain that to my girlfriend.. If I should have the misfortune of ejaculating before she achieves orgasm, I'm in for a night of tears and violence.. It doesn't even matter if I offer to go down on her, she only wants orgasms from vaginal penetration and god help me if I don't get it up again immediately in order to satisfy her.
Max, I'm going out on a limb here... but you do know that having her come a few times first is a better night all around? (and yes, that contradicts what I said in my other post) Also, it's a team effort, as my sweetheart says: we are both in this together for MUTUAL pleasure. Both partners need to feel complete. (and like I said above, that might not always mean orgasm in the typical sense.)
oh definitely.. I try my hardest to please her! Holding back so she can get hers is tough, but I give it my best.. Some days though.. Well, shit shes hot and I lose out.. .. and there is no sympathy!! D:
the trick I taught my man: breathe deeply in the seconds before you hit point of no return...or, as he jokes, "think about baseball."
Well if that is what we thought we wouldn't bother having sex at all. The feelings you get having sex is pleasurable well at least it should feel pleasurable, if everything is done right you can get very close to orgasm, and then of course if you're really good you might even manage to get her there.
Take the initiative, teach him/her to get you there before he or she goes for theirs. I would just start breathing real hard and letting out screams of ecstasy in your face so as not to cum.. does that bother you? Why are you 30 and still not happy with sex? One person mentions going down on the lady, that is a good way, might as well start that way and just do that until she begs for you to penetrate, if she isn't happy after that then she better say something or pout it out.
Like what everyone else said pretty mucn, sex is enjoyable with or without climax. Having an orgasm is just the icing on the cake, and the whole thing is amazing if you're doing it right. And if all your thinking about the whole time is getting off or getting your partner off then you aren't going to have as much fun and you're less likely to have an orgasm anyway.
My girlfriend has never had an orgasm. She's come close, and had minigasms but if she's about to peek, she starts to feel weird and stops me. She still absolutely loves sex and finds it very very pleasurable.
