My ex-boyfriend (now one of my closest friends) drove my family crazy. He was a lot that they didn't agree with. He was a very rocker looking guy, with four color hair cut into a mohawk. He had lots of piercings, and he wore makeup. (I liked him a lot, I thought he was cute ) My really conservative dad and aunt hated him from the first glance. Then, when he told them he was neopagan and bisexual, they flipped out. Thing is, I loved him becuase he was himself. He was a really sweet and caring guy. It didn't matter that he looked different, or didn't believe my religion, or was intamate with other boys. (Actually, I thought that was sexy .) I loved him for being who he was.
My family hated my ex, he had dreads and a bunch of tats that he didn't even like, but they were christian related, and my mom is jewish and my dad is totaly anti-religion, so they weren't to happy with it. They were pretty cool about it, but it was one of the things that contributed to the end of the relationship. It was inevitible though, and I'm so much better for it, so I kinda thank them now for that. relationships are hard to begin with, families make them way more complicated, lol. The thing to remember is that no matter how misguided it may seem, they do it out of love and concern for you.
unless your parents are ego-maniacs out to get you - they're usually right. funny how like, my parents, my brother, his fiance, my aunt and uncle, my grandparents, all my friends, their parents - you know, pretty much EVERYONE held back on telling me how much they disliked my ex-boyfriend, until we broke up.. and THEN they were like "yeah we didn't like him" and i really, REALLY wish they'd spoken up earlier, because i was too close (and too young and naive) to see it, and well he ruined a lot of my life and i'm still recovering from my experiences with him. like i said, taking into consideration the above disclaimer, listen to your parents and outside sources.
we don't listen while we are "in love" though. and so many people find someone to provoke the family, esp when young. We are supposed to, in a way. We are discovering who we are in context of the wider world.
aint that the fucking truth....the boys that my parents hated ruined my life in soo many ways...like the one that i am currently with at the moment...he is flirt and a cheat....a controlling maniac.....im trying soo hard to let go at the moment....thats all i want to do...let go
