thinking of stopping my education- temporarily

this is going to sound awful and so weird, but i want to stop my education for awhile.
Ever since my mom died, my life has pretty much fallen apart. She died, my boyfriend of two years broke up with me for another guy, i had to switch schools, i was evicted from our house, i got very sick, i drifted away from my family, one of my best friends killed himself, my dad is now a complete alcoholic, i might have to put my cat to sleep, my best friend of 12 years moved away, my aunt was diagnosed with permanent joint dissolution, and just a whole lot of crap has been happening.
Anyway, I am very depressed, and I don't feel like I'm ready to take on the extra stress of school life. My family would kill me if I dropped out, but I just don't feel up to all that. It's too much to handle all at once.
I live in America...is there a such thing as a student subatical anymore?

 

I am sorry things are so rough for you right now. I hope the load eases for you soon. If you need a shoulder, feel free to PM me.
*HUGS*

 

=( I am not very familliar with laws regarding education in the U.S., but regardless, I'd advise you not to drop out; I'm sure life is hard for you right now, but with all that's happening, you seem like a strong individual, someone who could pull through everything.

My family has many problems as well (not quite as many as yours, but there was a point where I also was thinking of dropping out and/or moving in with a friend because of my family, and my abusive father), but at least graduating high school should be a priority; you'll never get a really good job if you only have a GED (in case you don't know, the GED, or Graduate Equivalency Diploma, is like a "late" high school diploma; if you drop out of high school, you have to study all on your own, and then take the GED test in order to get a GED, and employers never look at a GED the way they look at a high school diploma).

Are you planning on going to college? The way it sounds now, your family doesn't have the money to get you into college. But go anyway! My family hasn't put in a single cent towards my college education (despite their claims to have been saving money for it since I was born ...), but here I am at college because of college loans! =) College is one way to escape family and any hardships associated with them, and is the best way to take a step in living your own personal life. In the U.S., you can go to the government and/or almost any bank, and apply for college loans, and if your family is relatively poor, you can also get a lot of money from colleges as grants (which you DON'T have to pay back, like scholarships). All you'd have to do is get a college loan; the vast majority of them don't require you to start making payments on the loan until 6 months after you graduate, which is more than enough time to get an awesome job, once you've graduated.

All you need to get one of these loans is a co-signer with decent credit. (Whether it be parents, grandparents, or aunts or uncles) If you don't have one, you can still apply for loans regardless of credit, but you'll have to sign up with multiple banks (because a single bank will only give you a few thousand dollars if you don't have a co-signer with decent credit). If you have multiple loans, once you graduate, you can even consolidate them (turn them all into a single loan) and then pay that loan off, so you don't have to manage 5 or even 10 different loans all at once.

And I'm living testimony that it works; I'll probably be coming out of college with $120,000 in debt, maybe even more ... but the college I went to is a very good one; 95% of its students have a job that pays more than $40,000 a year within only 4 months after they graduate. Which means paying off the loans is far from impossible, especially if I get a job that pays MORE than $40,000 a year.

Either way, I urge you to hang in there and get as good grades in school as you can; once you get to college, it all gets easier, because now you can worry about your own life without having to be affected by the problems of everyone else.

 

Thanks for hugs!!!

*hugs rock*

 

Check your PM's deary

 

I feel bad for you. If I were you I'd probably suicide! ( OF COARSE, I AM NOT SUGGESTING IT!!! )

*hugs*
I bet you're a realy tough person. I admire that.

Off topic: Why do you have a German Flag as Avatar if you're american?

 

hi there. i'm assuming you're in high school. I would say if you think you're going to fail anyway, or your grades are in the tank then quit for a semester. there'll be stigma if you go back to the same school again tho, keep that in mind. Do you live with your dad? would he be hurt if you went to live with a relative for a while and worked? then you could come back later and go to school again..most people love school after they've worked full time for a while. and the break can help you refocus.

when bad things happen it can be hard to care about anything. My house burned down two years ago and i'm only now feeling good about life again.. i cant imagine losing a parent at your age.. just dont stop caring completely ok? Your mom would be sad if she knew her death lead to you giving up on life. keep her in your heart, and put one foot in front of the other until time dulls the pain.

i graduated behind schedule by six months, and i dont think it really mattered that much. Please dont start drinking and doing drugs though. If you quit use the time out of school somewhat wisely, and then you'll feel better and more in control of your life.

good luck. this is just an opinion, you'll have to make your own choices...

 

Back several years ago, my best friend's mother died out of nowhere. She came home from school one day and found here mother lying on the floor, turns out she'd had a bad reaction to one of the medications she was on.

They allowed my friend to stay out of school for the rest of that year. If you talk to your school administrators, I'm almost certain they'd allow you to take some time off, or at the very least allow you to homeschool for a while. It's a bad idea to drop out completely, but if you're having problems that affect your school work they'll have to (and most likely will) understand.

I hope things pick up for you soon.

good luck.