women advice

i know i know. bad comparison, but what i meant by it is that most people who smoke cigs its their thing ya know, its a hard nasty habit to quit and yeah i wouldnt want the person i care about hurting themselves but regardless im just a strong believer in personal choice. it's their body they are hurting. im not saying i like that they smoke but im not their mother to tell them what do to or what not to do. ill openly tell them i dont think they should smoke but im not going to pressure them into quitting either. im strange i know.

 

i guess the next question is... Is an addiction really a personal choice? Sure.. when you initially start smoking its a personal choice... quitting is a personal choice.. but not being able to quit because of addiction is not a personal choice... i know quitting is not easy.. but when you sit down and try to vision the future.. it's a scary thing to look at

 

why is that?
I can even go in the store and buy my own cigs now.

 

Basically addiction. Everyone thinks they won't become addicted to cigarettes, but shit doesn't work out that way. Picking up smoking again at 18 is just a terrible idea. Your past the point of peer pressure.

 

i don't understand people who pick up smoking later in life... it makes no sense at all

 

Right, my friends father started smoking......................

at the age of 42

 

I have been smoking since i was 12 and i can drop cigarettes anytime i want.
I have only gone like a month not smoking though.....

 

if i had a nickle for everytime i heard that line

 

If I had a nickel for everytime I said that line, well I'd be rolling in change

 

i smoked for 4 years, i started when i was 16 and continued on and off until i turned 20 and took up cycling.

i wont judge for smoking cigs, because i've been there.

however,, i always make a point of telling someone that smoking is detrimental to their health and that it will kill you if you do it long enough. i'll only say it once and i'll look you in the eyes and mean it. just once, because i think you can handle hearing it without being a douche.

i would be seriously disappointed if someone i loved picked up smoking cigs as a habit.

 

haha i really can quit.
And once i can start smoking weed again ill most likely quit cause when im high cigarettes just seem nasty.

 

that too... before i quit quit... i could go a month.. went up to like 6 months without smoking.. and then.. bam.. off the wagon again... cigs have a way of pulling you back in.. even when you think you have kicked them

 

Right, like you think you're good, but then something happens. And normally it's not even "something" it's just an excuse to smoke, "well it is new years, and I will be really drunk tonight......." ect

 

hhaa ya thats what i do
When i drink i ALWAYS want cigarettes.

 

my friend and i smoke cigs at the park together. it's relaxing, they taste good, and we have some good converstaions.

this has been happening for a few months, and i'm not addicted. i can't really see cigs being a normal part of my life, but going to the park for some conversation and a few cigarettes is really nice

 

You sound just like me when I first started smoking. Except I was 14 so I still had a lot of growing up to do.

But anyway, I understand what you guys are saying. She's looking for something long term and therefore doesn't want me to die. But besides smoking, I'm actually pretty healthy. I exercise daily, I eat healthy, I read everyday (or most everyday).. you get the picture. Smoking is really my only bad habit. I can actually run farther than most of my non-smoking friends, and I smoke large amounts of weed and tobacco. So besides inhaling carcinogens, cigarettes really aren't doing that much damage to my health. What scares the shit out of me is still being a smoker at age 50, staring down the barrel of a gun with each cigarette.

I want to quit. I truly do. But it's fucking hard. There's been two times that I actually put out in effort. I posted about it a couple months ago, that I was quitting with my dad. My dad didn't last a day. I lasted a week and haven't really made an attempt since. I'm going to try and quit again by the end of this month. I'm not going to tell her, or anyone for that matter, as someone else suggested.

I'm also going to break it off with her. She's just constantly bitching about every thing I do. It's like she wants to "fix" me. I don't think there's anything wrong with me. I don't need another mom. I wish it could've worked out because besides the constant bitching about every little thing I do, she's a pretty cool girl and I was hoping this one would last. But she's more of a headache than anything else. Thanks for the advice guys

 

see, that's what is going to make quitting the hardest. weed and cigs have become like bread and butter for me. after that fat bowl, i sit back with a smooth cigarette. nothing like it..

 

cigs are just fun and social thats what i love about them.

gives you a reason to step outside and take a breather, etc..

BUT, i def personally wana stop so i dont end up like the smokers who act like they're coming off a heroin addiction. gota get on these delish little evil fuckers ha

 

My girlfriend thinks smoking cigs is cool. I quit smoking cigs years ago, and she actually told me that smoking cigs was manly. She has made fun of the way I walk to where I had to get new shoes, made fun of my hair style saying I look like a mental patient. She criticizes my clothes for being worn out.
You should have been there when I was building the IKEA furniture in front of her. Early in our relationship I was pissed at her for so much bitching and she told me that if she didn't care she wouldn't say anything.
Your girl wants you to be a version of the guy of her dreams. This is the sign of a strong woman! Some girls will not try and change their man at all...usually because they are insecure and think their guy is above them.
They want to mold you into someone who can protect and lead the family..only natural.

Just tell the girl flat out that you want to quit but her bitching about it doesn't help. You have to do it on your own.
Maybe I just like bitches but I wouldn't get rid of that girl. I would honestly think the girl wasn't into me if she didn't bitch about stuff.

 

To want to mold you? That doesn't seem like a strong woman, it seems like someone who wants everything their way. I understand that if she cares she won't want you to get hurt or hurt yourself, but to want to mold you into what she wants is something VERY selfish. It's been stated before and I completely agree: a relationship is about sacrificing things for the person you care about. I don't agree with a lot of the things you said, but overall this is a public forum and we all have our own opinions. I just seems like you're jumping to conclusions and assuming things. Everyone acts different in their own relationships. And in the end some girls just like to bitch, without reasoning (i.e this HUGE post )

Ironically enough I'm trying to quit smoking. I smoked my last cig at 2:10 pm on Sunday the 8th. So far so good.