hey friends . so i dont know where to start but if i get as many replies as possible tht would be helpful .. so here goes.. well i use to be this guy who had a porn addiction .. and i pretty much had one of the largest collections ever , not only that .. i probably use to wank everyday to a porn vid . then i got a gf and we strting indulging in alot of oral sex. but i kinda knew my dick was not rock solid hard what i wanted it to be. so i thought maybe it was the sheesha/hukkah the pipe where you blow out fruit(tobbaco) from which was affecting me. so i gave that shit of completly . im guessing it didnt really help . butim happy to be off it . then someone on the other forums and doing a bit ofresearch suggested it was the porn which was a problem . well slowly and steadily i tried to give up the porn . from everyday it became jus 2wice a week and then gradually just 1nce. and now i can safely say i havent watched a porn vid since 2 months and im happy to be off from it too. but i guess even though its made a diff in my life , i still think im not tht hard like i want it to be . for examplye if my gf is giving me a bj and her hair commin in the way so she goes to tie it up , so when she lets go off my penis i feel it slowly becomming soft . similarly im pretty sure if i go to put a condom on , by the time i open it and shit my cock will go soft. im not nervous . im so comfortable with my gf. is there some problem which i face?
It isn't watching the porn, it's masturbating that effects things. You gave up smoking tobacco, is there anything else that you use?
Stop watching the porn as much, and stop thinking of the kinkier fantasies. Having plain sex can't add up to, and be as powerful as the kink that we think about. Unless, I'm sleeping with a woman that I love, I have a harder time getting it up. If I'm with a friend with benefits, I usually finger her, and that gets me hard. Other than that I need either intimacy, or kink to get me hard. Just seeing a woman's body doesn't work for me, in most cases. If I feel a strong bond, and some intimacy with her, then I will get excited, and get it up. Otherwise, porn has numbed me.
thanks guys for replying . it really isnt tobboca , its just some fruits mixed up and you smoke it out . but whatever it is i know it was harmful and i stopped. someone once explain this theory about porn in another forum . they said when you watch too much porn it ruins your image about how your girlfriend should be . whatever is in porn is not real and it messes up your mind whereby you want your gf to start acting like a porno actress. and since she might not able to perform like that or have the double D's of a porno actress your mind starts playing games on you ultimately affecting your penis . so i guess it happened to me the porn thing im pretty sure it did . what if you have the bond and feel the intimacy but still my penis is not hard then ? because im in a situation like that. @mike no i dont use anything else... thnks for replying guys
What is your general health like. Your sexual performance is an indicator of general health. Unfirm erections suggest poor cardio-vacular health. I would get a doctor check to cofirm that there is nothing physically wrong, and then work on being active, well rested, and eating right.
hey ahimsa and jinny thanks for the replies . i think im pretty active alirght and i dont suffer from any ailments as such . plus i go to the gym every alt day and work out , except since the past 2 weeks since i got my exams and stuff.as for eating right i took care of that by eating home food daily . so nothing wrong there . do you think it could be because of nervousness or anxiety? i dont think so cuz im nt nervous but then ever since i got those unfirm erections tht tot of "what if i dont perform well" comes to my mind . ....
Well, sexual disfunctions come from two places: your body or your mind. If your body isn't in good shape, it can cause less than peak performance. If your mind isn't in the right state, it can cause less than peak performance. Considering you're in general good health and young, I'd say it is probably mental. Sometimes, worrying about your performance can become a self-fulfilling prophecy. Now that you have doubt about your erections, it can perpetuate the problem. I would give it a little while and see if things get better. Focus on the pleasure sensations rather than your erection. Please your woman in other ways so that the erection isn't the biggest deal in the event. IF it persists see a doctor.
ok theres another thing . since i watched alot of porn i always pictured those girls with those hot bodies and stuff like that .now my girlfriends shes not one of those models and lately she has put on some more additional weight. ithink maybe after she undresses i kinda feel all weird looking at tht weight probably? could it be tht way. but i still lov her unconditionally
