Girls that have a boyfriend, but they still flirt with other guys???

Its human nature to flirt...it just depends how far you take it, ya know..

 

Well I think if it ends up in bed it's kinda more than flirtation. That'd be foreplay (Yay me! A man that's heard of foreplay! )

 

haha, well if it ends up in bed, thats plain cheating..

I am talking about little innocent comments and joking around and such...

 

i can`t be fucked with reading the rest of this example of how depressing society is, but i agree with that Michael dude.
Peace

 

Sorry we dont all meet your highness' standards

 

I think Benjamins question wasn't answered by anybody. If a girl who has been in a relationship with someone for 4 years comes to you and just say, wants to eat lunch with you... everyday, constantly flirting with you, even saying stuff about her culture and telling you that she was destined for a white guy. Yet she's going out with someone and your there getting the full on flirt-assualt, what the hell would anybody do in this situation?

P.S. this is actually a real situation, so nobody say it's theoretical!

 

it depends a lot on her intentions. if she's got bad intentions, well.. you know what to do. ditch the bitch. this doesnt sound like innocent flirting, because apparently somebody is getting hurt.

secondly, is the girl aware of how her actions are affecting her boyfriend?
he needs to make it very clear to her that what she's doing is hurting him. after he tells her, she needs to start respecting him.

wait, i'm confused... is benjamin the boyfriend, or the guy she is flirting with?

if he's the other guy, i'd be wary of her. again, it depends on her intentions (which based on what you said, do not sound like innocent intentions). it also depends on how he feels about her. does he want a friendship, a relationship, or a quickie? i definitely wouldn't persue things with her while she's still in a relationship. flirting is not cheating, but it can definitely lead to cheating... (and not to offend anyone on here) but you know the saying, "once a cheater..."

 

Flirting is pretty harmless in and of itself, it's only within the context of the larger relationship that it's going to bother you. If all is well, you should be able to trust each other. If she's unhappy with the way the relationship is going, I'd be pretty upset if she were flirting with someone else day-in/day-out, instead of working with me to make things improve. But if it was me who was unhappy with her, I'd talk to her about it to determine if I'm unwarranted in feeling that way, or if there's something more to her behavior that needs to be addressed.

Everyone has their limits; their boundaries. If they're being crossed, better do something about it or pack your bags, because otherwise it's over.

Also, I can look at that situation and apply a million scenarios to it. Without the feelings, expectations, and intentions of the people involved, it's pretty hard to analyze.

 

Nothing bothers me more when I see girls doing this..however, guys arent innocent either. When I had my last bf, I was really faithful..I guess Im just that type..I didnt even wanna think about any other guys (including celebs) let alone flirt with em. I agree its trashy and possibly misleading for the 'victim'.. ARGH.lol

 

i'm the other guy, well sorta. A friend of mine always asks me about some girl that does this to him.

I'm confused myself, what kind of intentions does she have??? like using him???
and what if he want a relationship??? i don't mean friendship.

 

you have to define flirting in this situation. im not interested in other guys, but i wont deny (and have openly told my guy) that yes- i think guys are hot still. And ive seen him subconciously check out a girl passing us several times. Its natural, you cant help it. As long as he doesnt fully stop and turn his head, drop my hand and/or walk over to her, its all good. Looking cant hurt. And in a social situation im sure ive flirted without meaning too many a time. Again, its natural and cant be helped. Its a subconcious reaction to being attracted to someone. Now by the same token im not overly touchy-feely, giggly flirty type thing- no. Ive got someone i care about and have no desire to leave or destroy things with.

But yes- to a point guys and gals flirt outside of a relationship. It cant be helped.

 

Ok, so we have already estabolished that she likes me! this bejamins buddy here, the friend he mentioned. She flirts with me alot, calls me over when I'm walking in the hall, wants to have lunch with me almost everyday, and there's so many other guys out there plus not to mention she's the hot one so why does she chose me? One of my other friends told me to ask her to go see a movie or something with her, just something to get her outside of school, you know. She asked her boyfriend and ofcourse he said no, but what I don't get is, is that she actually tried to go out with me otherwise wouldn't she have just said no right at the beginning? This is what me and bengy are talking about! right now where friends and that might be ok for her but I'm looking for something more, i don't know, it just seems like where getting no where?

 

by her intentions, i mean... does she just want to be a tease? does she want to cheat on her boyfriend with you, and make you a temporary secret sex affair? does she intend on leaving her boyfriend to be with you?

and then you said you want more from her than just your friendship.. but what do you want from her -- sex, or a relationship?

if you could see yourself getting into a serious relationship with her, but she just wants to use you to cheat on her boyfriend, things could get a lot more complicated and messy.

also, if she gets into a relationship with you through cheating on her boyfriend, are you really going to trust her in a relationship? more specifically, are you going to be able to trust her to not cheat on you?

i don't know what her boyfriend's like, but what would he do if he found out? is he the kind of guy that would try to beat you up or key your car? if he's got a bad temper, it might be in your best interest to wait until she isn't involved with him any longer. i mean, he did tell her not to go to the movies with you... so he probably already has his suspicions.

 

As long as she aint over there grindin on the dude it doesnt bother me. Cause if its to be ya know she's goin to be there for you. I like the thought of them thinkin they got a chance but there she is at night sleepin by myside.

 

i have a question.....my gurlfriend and i have been going out for 2 years now. we love each other alot, but she is always flirting with other guys even right in front of me and it really pisses me off because when she does it she will look at me to see if it bothers me or not. i have tried talking to her about but she wont listen, she will get really bitchy and wont even let me talk. when shes mad at me its even worse, she will flirt so hard that she is like an inch away from cheating. i dont know what to do this has been bothering me for a while does anyone have any thoughts?????????????????????

 

she is just plain ignorant my friend, I would tell her if she doesnt respect you enough to stop acting like a 6th grader than bye bye..Dont put up with someone throwing something in your face like that, its really disrespectful and just plain ignorant...

 

thanx alot ill give it a try

 

and if that doesnt work, then give her a taste of her own medicine ya know, see how she likes it...

 

It seems like you may have a bit of a possessive attitude.

My husband used to have an attitude similar to yours. He thought if I even smiled or laughed at a guy I was flirting. We have long since got over it, though. He realized that he has had some self-confidence and self-esteem issues that was making it hard for him to trust anyone. But now that we have settled into our relationship and are much more comfortable and trusting of eachother he has done a complete 180. We even have friends that are swingers, that flirt with me (and him) all the time, and we just joke back and keep it light.

And my husband and I have great respect for our relationship. We are best friends.

 

Was she outgoing and flirtatious when you met her? Did that attract you to her?

If her actions are making you uncomfortable or upset you absolutely have to tell her how you feel. But make sure to listen to how she feels too. Remember, it is just in some people's personalities to be very outgoing (seemingly flirtatious). My twin sister is extremely outgoing, and lots of people consider her a flirt. Her current boyfriend likes that about her because it that exact personality is what attracted him to her in the first place. People ask him how he handles it, and he says he wouldn't want to change it for the world.

People have to remember that "flirting" has a lot to do with a person's personality. Not all personalities are compatible, but you cannot think that this outgoing, flirtatious person is bad, or in the wrong, just because their personality doesnt fit yours.

But I don't necessarily know what kind of "flirting" she is doing. If she is lining up dates or getting phone numbers or something, that is a whole other story.