if you havin girl problems i feel bad for you son

i posted this in the relationships forum, but its always nice to have a stoner's input (and this board is a lot more active)

So theres this girl, and I've never felt feelings for a girl like I've felt for her in my entire life. Everything about her is amazing. We've been "talking" seriously for about a month, but I've known her since I was around 13. We have both expressed our feelings towards eachother, even though mine may be a little stronger than hers. Shes told me that she doesn't want a boyfriend because she just ended a 2 and a half year relationship with this kid. She said that when we started talking. Yesterday though, she told me that she couldn't do this anymore and she just wanted to be friends for now. She said it was getting to her how serious things were becoming. This really broke my heart, and so today I told her a bunch of stuff and the final result is that we decided to take it as if yesterday never happened and to take things back to where they were before that day. I just don't know what to do from here, because she is definitely someone I don't want to give up.

 

She told you her true feelings already... that she doesn't want a boyfriend and she didn't want things to be as serious. I don't think all of a sudden she's gonna change her mind and wanna be in a serious relationship. If you really like her a lot you should give her some space until she's ready for a serious relationship..

I don't mean don't talk to her for a period of time, just don't make things so serious like so she doesn't get freaked out.

 

I got 99 problems, and a bitch aint one.


Sorry about that..


It looks like you guys have to be "friends" for now.

You should have waited for the opportune moment to tell her all those things, it sounds like your timing was off..

You gotta wait for your window.

Oh, and dont get stuck in the friends zone!

 

she wont come around till after you fond a new babe...then she will see that you are needed in her life and thats when you pounce

 

Well you're in a tough situation. If you both really feel the same way (that you like each other more than friends) it's gonna be touchy and awkward to stay 'just friends' because you never really know what could be taken wrong or what's going 'too far'.

By "not ready for another relationship" she's either afraid to be let down again, or really does just want some time single to get her mind cohesive and process the experiences and shit from the last relationship. I'd say just try and be a good friend but don't try and rush anything. The wait will be worth it IMO.

 

go for "just friends" for now-i know that sucks---but if she ever wants more your available--you wanna know how many of my just friends girlfriends turned into lovers? id say about 65% and had longer relationships with those than any full time girlfriends--guess im just a fuck to live with--hahahahaha

 

A relationship built on a good solid friendship is always going to be more fruitful

 

bad advice.

friendzone is a bad bad bad place to be if you want something more, because girls will be girls and before you know it they will say "i dont want to ruin our friendship and be in a serious relationship"

shit sucks but its truth - back off, give her space. DON'T be buddy buddy best friends, but dont not talk to her at all

if she said that she wants to forget having the conversation about not wanting anything with you then continue with the moves my man...maybe she will realize youre a good dude

 

Maybe she just wants to fuck... No relationship...

 

best option if available

 

but he obviously wants more than that.......right? >_>

 

Yeah I actually do want more than just fucks. I'm afraid of the friend zone like a fucking terror shark because most girls I've tried getting with have friend zoned me. Even in this case I'm barely escaping it, but I want to be fully out. Almost 5 years of knowing her has gotten me very wary of and cautious of my moves here. I'm also really paranoid of her motives, words, and actions because I used to be a chunky fuck back in the day(305 sophomore year) and now I've dropped down to around 245 with a lot more muscle. This girl is really pretty and I'm still in that fatboy frame of mind if that makes any sense, so I feel like she's lying about her liking me sometimes.

 

Go with the flow and see what happens, after being with someone for 2 1/2 years it is very probable she's just tired out over the concept of relationships

 

Her BFF talked to her today and told her to tell me straight up her motives, so I hope I can finally get some truth.

 

faking suicide works better..

swallow some childrens tylenol and an alcheseltzer... the foaming from the mouth should more than likely get you laid

 

I love how she has to have someone else come tell you HER motives. Tell her you want a face to face conversation. Video tape the your first time sex so you have leverage on her in the future. ADVICE

 

Girls don't know what they want at 17 and 18. The best advice is to stop thinking about her. I know that is like telling a heroin addict to stop thinking about heroin, but try and double up on your studies or use this situation to express yourself creatively. From my experience girls who would not even go on a date with me would later want to get with me...and what is the sole reason?..because I had a girlfriend. That is very attractive to girls. Now how do you get a girlfriend? Just start asking girls out a lot and go on a lot of dates. AND don't get emotional or self-conscious..just think of it as experience.

I am speaking from a guy who did not have a girlfriend until he was 19 and now is with the girl of his dreams. You just need experience with dating different girls to get into the swing of things. Don't worry about rejection..just keep in mind there are plenty of great girls out there. Be pro-active.

 

thanks geprodis thats the best advice ive heard so far

 

if a girl says that it usually means that you're probably not her type/good looking enough for her taste, or have some other major hindering quality.

 

why would you want a girlfriend dude...fuck that
play the field
and definately dont take advice from the stoners lounge
half of us would bang her with you passed out right in the same room

and if your name is tony
i did