basically a virgin...?

I've been in like 5 situations since i've gotten to college in which i was about to have sex and couldnt because i'm not on birth control and apparently all guys assume that every girl is on birth control and don't bother to have condoms...
but anyway im kind of relieved, at the same time frustrated... i havent had sex in a really fucking long time, last time i had sex was at least a year ago, maybe a year and a half. and when i did have sex (when i was with my last boyfriend) i never enjoyed it because he didnt know what he was doing and we only did it a few times. i dont even know if i should consider myself a virgin... i'm worried that when i have sex its going to be like losing my virginity again. its just awkward now, like all this awkward first time shit is supposed to happen in high school so when you get to college you can actually enjoy yourself.

sooo.... what should i do? i wouldnt really mind but ive just found myself in so many situations where ive been so close to having sex, like i have no idea what i would do if the guy did happen to have a condom, and thats bound to happen eventually.

 

just wait....






until the end of the semester and tell your TA that you want him to take your virginity. no strings attached, furious fucking. that'll set you on ur way.

 

i was a virgin when I entered college, hated it as well, but now im thankful cuz i didn't sleep around with as many college boys who were just looking to get off yet again.

if they don't carry condoms thats not a good sign, condoms help protect against stds as well...yeah everyone knows this, but its often put aside because of the whole "its never going to happen to me" bullshit. it happened to three of my friends, some have worse stds than others and some dont really matter...but if they dont carry condoms then i bet they are having sex with out condoms frequently (if they are lucky to get around as much as they'd like)

sex on bc without condoms is great for people who know each other's sexual history, otherwise condoms still play an important role in random hook ups

sorry for the lecture, i just really want you to hear that before its too late

i was the same way like i said, and i still haven't had vaginal sex all that much. i know you are eager, but i'd say be patient wait for someone special...does that sound too cliche? i am a HORNY mofo, but im just saying even if not a relationship wait maybe for someone who you trust and can have a good first recent experience with...idk

good luck

 

Well to be honest I think a virgin girl has it better off than a virgin guy....I mean not much is expected except to spread em, not alot of pressure is on you to perform the pressure is on the guy so you really shouldn't worry much unless he's hung like a donkey then it might get painful, just don't do anything your not ready for. It's perfectly normal to be nervous, I've had lots of sex *brag* and I still get a lil nervous if it's my first time with a different girl and actually wouldn't like it if I didn't, makes it more exciting.

 

i think, that if they don't have condoms and solely rely on the fact that you 'should'* be on birth control, then fuck them. the only thing they are worried about is getting you knocked up anyways. i mean, its a plus not to get knocked up by some random guy or someone you don't really care for other than sex, then thats a good thing. but the fact that they don't worry about you getting std's or don't care enough about themselves to keep them from getting stds and basically the spread of stds in general, then they're assholes. i'd wait for a guy who takes out the condom first.

* not what i think, just what seems to be expected

 

i really dont give a shit about "waiting for someone special" or any of that bullshit. i've already lost it to someone i loved, that was fine with me. but it never felt right.

the only thing i'm worried about is that i know it will hurt/be unpleasant and i dont want to ruin this guy's fun by not having fun... if that makes sense.

 

fuck the guy, most random guys you sleep with could care less if you get off...fuck them if they don't care about your pleasure because they should

 

Why don't you buy some condoms and keep them in your dresser or something?

 

because i cant imagine having sex in my own bed.

also these arent like completely random people, they're all like friends of friends that i see all the time.

 

"apparently all guys assume that every girl is on birth control and don't bother to have condoms..."

apparently you assume all guys are expecting and prepared to have sex any time and should therefore always carry condoms around.

Apparently the guy is also obligated to let you nasty up his bed instead of the other way around.

 

It still won't hurt to be prepared, if you are ever really ready to have sex. If you wait until you are in love, a lot of the pressure will be taken off of you as well. You won't feel as strong a need to do well sexually when you are with someone you love. My opinion anyway.

 

oh yeah itll stretch it out, and itll hurt at first, but then youll love it.. thats with my exp with the tight anyway.

 

what i meant was that its not like they say they dont have a condom, or ask if i have one. they just go right into sex after foreplay without even bothering to say anything, they clearly just assume that i'm on birth control. so i always have to stop them and say im not on birth control, and then they say they dont have a condom. the last guy i was with was trying to convince me that condoms were overrated, and i was drunk enough that he probably would have ended up having sex with me if my friend hadn't called me and kicked me out of her room.

 

the obvious solution is to carry your own condoms and insist on using them.

You look kinda.. well, you look like one of those girls with low self esteem who thinks "i'm not pretty so I'll just let boys fuck me so they like me"

Don't be like that. Don't end up in situations where being slightly drunker is your excuse for getting pregnant/infected.

 

you sound horny as fuck-lol--get your own condoms get a little high nd just do it laugh all you want but peace and enjoy

 

i am horny as fuck.

although whenever i end up hooking up with people, im always thinking "what the fuck is going on" and completely unable to control myself at all. kinda sucks... ive only hooked up with one person (one time) while sober since i broke up with my ex a year ago. every single other time ive been on something, drunk or tripping or something.

 

wrap it before you tap it!!!

lick it before you stick it!!!

 

There you go, why don't you try to have sex while sober? You will enjoy it more. Another thing you can do is to masturbate a few times to calm those nerves down. Just my 2 cents.

 

If your worried about intercourse hurting or feeling awkward physically I suggest trying to stretch out the bottom ligament in the vaginal canal with your fingers. If you push down on the vaginal floor theres a muscle that can stretch that does get stretched during sex.

 

sober sex??? why lord why??