Soooo love....? advice?

So this is my situation. i'm quite open and at ease with my sexuality as a gay person, and so far life has been easy. So far i have only really experienced a sexual love for men, and quite fine with that, as i dont really look into things deeply(see:emotionally stunted ). Anyway, lately Ive been feeling emotionally attracted to this one guy in our close social group. I never found him attractive before, and quite frankly, having sex with him is the last thing on my mind even now. there were times when i felt a slight attraction for him for a short time( a day at the most) and then felt the exact opposite.

But lately, i cant stop thinking of it. He's bi btw, and it doesnt feel so totally unrequited. i just dont know what to do.

sorry if this is kinda all over the place. hard to arrange my thoughts atm .

 

Emotions are complex, so it's really hard to say what will work best. It depends on the individual(s). But I would suggest getting to know the person better. Don't rush in. It would be different if it was purely a sexual interest. But it sounds like you might have feelings for this dude? So maybe something simple and safe to start: coffee and conversation? Or go out for a beer. And get to know the dude on a more personal level. But I wouldn't rush into anything major. Hope this helps. Good luck!

--QP

 

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I believe you are being to emotional, for the short
amount of time that you guys have known each other.
Take it easy, go with the follow....

 

i've had something somewhat the same. for example there've been guys i haven't liked at first but having found out they were attracted to me i became attracted to them (seems weird even to myself). then there have been guys i've connected with and become close to but would never have sex with. also, there have been guys i've been getting along with just fine at first but after having become more intimate (in an emotional sense) i couldn't stand them anymore. it's life. different people produce different reactions in us. you don't have to have sex with everyone you connect with.

 

I go by the rule, that I do NOT have sex with anyone, unless I am positively sure that definitely want to do that. If I have any doubts whatsoever, I move on...

This has worked for me very well, so far. As we all know, later regrets are totally useless...

KD

 

i believe ive said before, hes part of my close social circle. in fact, ive known him and kept into close contact for 6 years