i have a problem and would LOVE to get some advice. i have a really hard time combining love with sex. its either one or the other, like if i get with a guy its only lust and not meaningful. this wasnt a problem until i actually fell in love and my bf does not understand why i wont have sex with him. its weird, like i feel like its only lust whenever we do get down and has nothing to do with our love for each other. i think part of it is that my dad had a lot of affairs and i actually caught him during one and he kinda objectified women because he's a sex addict. im really serious, no jokes please, its really hurting my relationship!
Well, i'm on the receiving end. every girl for the past year just goes out with me for the sex, says the sex is the best they've ever had, then dumps me a week later, with some stupid excuse or does it with no excuse and no contact. Especially cause i'm looking for a girl that won't take me for granted, it's taking its toll on me.
Well, just because you experience lust when having sex with your boyfriend doesn't mean anything negative. Sex is a lusty thing, and as long as you love your boyfriend, you are having meaningful sex!
You should just talk to your boyfriend, ask his how he feels about sex and how he feels about you. For example my gal thinks that's all I want but I actually love her and she flipped out on me once because she though that's all I wanted and didn't love her, but we talked and got things cleared up. I've been told that talking is the best thing you can do in a relationship.
