friendships ending?

i put this hear cuz i like your guys advice...



what do you guys do when you lose a best friend? like the friendship ends for whatever reason. how do you guys move on and shit?

and what do you think it means when a friend wouldnt care if the friendship ended?

 

true friendship never ends...with that said good friends are hard to come by and I've never had to end one, sure we had our ups and downs but came out squeaky clean in the end...opinion on someone who doesn't care if your friendship is over, wasn't your friend in the first place.

 

if its somebody you truly care about, then I'd say make amends and fix things, but if its someone that did something to really hurt you and completely ruin the friendship, I'd say just move on and save yourself more trouble.

 

im not as hurt as im willing to be. i guess true friendships never have problems, but that seems hard to believe.

i feel like my friendship has taken a 180 turn. neither of us are the people we started out being when we met. can that be a reason for our friendship to end?

 

No friendships do have problems....I was just saying true friendship is mutual respect and enough maturity on both sides to overcome those problems

 

You can always find new friendships. I mean, even if the person died - you have to be able to pick up where you are and move on. A lot of people find new best friends with the people they work with, with their neighbours, with new circles of friends.

It's just normal to grow apart.

 

how do you make friendships last forever?

 

Lots of coke and lots of strippers.

 

You can't exactly. You can try, but eventually either they do or they don't.

How can you make marriages last forever? I don't know. Even love changes.

Personally, I still feel like I have a friendship with many of the people that I don't see often anymore. When I do see them, it's as if nothing ever changed between us at all - we pick up the conversation as if nothing all that much happened between us in the past 3 years. That's what good friendships are - no matter where you are in your life, they go on and take you into them again in a new way. Not the way you'd always like them to - but people evolve. So it's not uncommon to experience evolution in friendships either.

 

You can't make anything happen that isn't meant to happen, I have best friends that I might not be as close with as I used to be, still talk to but since it's a 2hr drive don't see each other often, but we still check up on each other every now and again an visit when we can. And know when we get the chance will hang out no matter what.

 

ive known my best friend for 5 years but technically longer than that. but anyway i feel like i dont know him as much anymore. he completely changed into something that is so different. im so confused and its just not that much fun anymore hanging out. hes down my throat about every little thing. i thought he was more jelly and mellow. lately he has been knit picking. im unsure if thats just his way of trying to get me to end it. but to be honest, i am making mistakes too but he makes them sound so much worse than they are

 

Sounds to me like he's just lookin out for you girl, should be happy to have a friend like that

 

Ok.

 

a friendship is just another relationship, just not as likely to involve sex. the problem is theres fewer ways to break it off with a friend.

people grow apart, some old friends get to be a real drag. some mooch until you have to say " did you call first? then get the fuck off my porch!" (been there, done that, pain in the ass) the hard part is letting a friend down gently.

 

i've stopped caring when i lose friends. it makes me happy that stupid people who get upset over trivial things are ejecting themselves from my life.

 

this is something I can deeply relate to. I had a close friend about three months ago go her own way. We had many issues, which I am not about to touch on. What I can tell you ,that if they are a true friend, they WILL come back to you in time. If not, then keep your head up high, try not to dwell on it and move on.

After me and 'her' stopped talking, the reality of it really didn't set in until about three weeks ago or so. Its like an open wound that needs to heal, and it will. Do things that make you happy, and keep intouch with the ones that are real friends and care about you

 

He could be going through something right now? Or maybe he is indeed trying to end it. This is fairly simular to my situation, after six years we grew apart. We were so close at one point, we weren't friends anymore, we were brother and sister. Then over time, she got some crazy ideas that were not realistic and would have gotten us into some hotwater. Anyway, sometimes you may just need sometime apart man.

and the worst thing about it was this is the person that I told everything too. My whole life story, stuff I've never told anyone else, and now I have no one to open up to.

 

never lost a best friend...
imo, you were never best friends in the first place though if it ends over something stupid. If any of my best friends ever stole from me or did some shit with a girl i was dating, I'd be embarrassed that I was ever friends with them in the first place. Hope that never happens to me, i've seen it happen to others. that shit must be overwhelming.

 

its not soo bad but theres tension now that im always thinking about. im pretty much going mad trying to think about it. i wanna move on so i dont have to keep feeling so different with him. i have another friend i tell everything too but shes a girl like me so we are quick to agree and be on each other side. he was more of a see it both way type but was very harsh with everything. i think i need BALANCE, lol, why is that so hard to find in people. if i could find someone who doesnt change so drastically that would be awesome.

 

^^ if you ever knew me in real life, i'd be that person. anyway

the best thing is not to dwell on it. They may come back through time man, time does heal. Try to do things that you enjoy to distract you from dwelling on it.




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