TLDR version: I can't cum by having any type of sex. I have to use my hand to finish. This is kind of a weird/fucked up problem that I have. All my friends that know about it laugh and say shit like, "what's the problem?" but basically here's the deal... I started masturbating when I was really young. I don't even remember how young I was, but it was at an age that I was still watching cartoons. My older sister used to touch me and shit when I was little and I think that made me hit puberty way earlier. I can get myself off no problem, but I've never been with a chick who can get me to cum. I can literally keep going forever, it feels good enough to keep me hard, but to finish I have to pull out and finish it with my hand. There is something about the texture of my hand that nothing else comes close to when it comes time to finish. I can pretty much finish on command and that was fine when I was doing adult films, but now I'm with this girl I care a lot about and I can tell that it bothers her that she can't get me off when she goes down on me. She thinks I can cum when I’m fucking her but I just fake it and it works because she gets ridiculously wet and likes to fuck in the dark, the only problem is that she knows something is up because she can’t get me to cum when she goes down on me. She likes to be fucked as hard as possible and seeing her get off turns me on, and that’s pretty much all I wanted when I sought out girls was to make them cum. I don’t care if I cum during sex because I can always take care of that whenever I feel like it, but there’s something about making the girl I’m with cum makes my day. Anyways, one night we were fucking missionary position and she asked me to pull out and cum on her stomach and I guess she wanted me to get to the point of cumming and then pull out in one smooth motion because she got ‘bothered’ that I used my hand to finish. She was also surprised/suspicious of how much I shot on her because she thought I had just came ten minutes prior. I tried to talk to her about it but when I tried to explain it she makes it about her and talks like I’m not into her, but that’s not the case. I’ve been single and nailing girls for a long time and she’s the one girl I’ve met that makes me not care about any other girls. I want to eventually have children and I’m afraid I won’t be able to take care of this problem before we get to that point. I know I can always finish myself and pinch it, but Anyways, I quit masturbating two weeks ago hoping that I can unlearn this and get used to cumming without using my hand and so far it sucks. I have so much built up energy and I want to release it but I’m still unable to finish and it’s pissing me off. Has anyone dealt with anything like this? I hate deceiving her, but she gets so down on herself when I even hint about it. When we got together I vowed to be honest with this girl because I’ve ruined relationships in the past with lies. Anyways thanks for reading.
I think you need to relax. Try to think about the pleasure you are giving her. Be in the moment. Feel her, think of her and get out of your head. Have her tell you when she is getting close. Have her tell you she loves you. Try to feel that giving her your seed is what she wants and this will make her happy. Think about her and not about you and your not being able to come. Shift your energy into her, and away from you. Simply be in the moment. Feel what it feels like to slowly enter her. Have her contract her pussy around your cock. Relax and enjoy the feel, taste, sight and scent of her.
Can other people make you come with their hands? Just a wild suggestion - I've no idea if this would work or not - you could try imagining that you're masturbating.
Not taking any anti-depressants are you. They can make it hard as hell to come. For me, Paxil was a curse - it sounds good that you can screw for a long time, but after a while you want to cum and get it over with.