do most people change?

Discussion in 'Relationships' started by veroness, Nov 1, 2009.

  1. veroness

    veroness There's only one :)

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    Everyone knows someone who has changed since they first met, i think. but are there people in your lives that have pretty much stayed the same when you first met them?

    i was listening to some of my old cds and this one song mentioned that some people never change, what you guys think?
     
  2. FreshDacre

    FreshDacre Senior Member

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    Well no matter what people change, because they have experiences that change them. If experiences didn't change them then they must not have a soul. But yeah mabey some people don't change very much while others change alot.
     
  3. Gyro Gearloose

    Gyro Gearloose Senior Member

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    Hi,

    it depends on the age of the person and the time frame you lock at. I had changed a lot in some areas in my twenties, but my fundamental traits of character are the same as ever. In this sense people never change. An introvert for instance remains an introvert. She might open in some aspects, but she will never become a extroverted person.

    And often, I guess, we wonder how a person has changed over some time, but it is only because we know the person better now or we forget some character traits of her or him.

    Regards
    Gyro
     
  4. clitorisjunkie

    clitorisjunkie Member

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    I've found that inherent characteristics usually stay the way they've always been regardless of age.

    Some will do a really big job of trying to make it appear that they've changed over the years, but many times they're putting on an act or they're in some kind of transition to mix in the old with slightly newer outside aspects...by which after that's passed, the old will seem more prominent over time.
     
  5. armed_with_a_mind

    armed_with_a_mind Member

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    people definitely change.always.
     
  6. Alternative_Thinker

    Alternative_Thinker Darth Mysterious

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    I think it depends on the person. I think it also depends on what you mean by "change". I can think of a few people who definitely have changed over the years, and unfortunately for the worse in their cases. All the other people I've known for a long time haven't really changed much. They've simply become older and evolved some in terms of their intellectuality. But I wouldn't call that "change" necessarily.

    As for me, I don't think I have changed much since I was a kid. I might look a bit different than when I was 12, but my personality generally hasn't changed. I'm another one of those who evolve mentally without making drastic transitions.
     
  7. boredpsycho

    boredpsycho resident grammar nazi

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    i'd have to agree with this.
     
  8. veroness

    veroness There's only one :)

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    i like what you said. makes sense. but sometimes i feel like damn they have changed so much and i am the same as i always was.
     
  9. Gyro Gearloose

    Gyro Gearloose Senior Member

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    Hi,

    I guess most of the others have the same thoughts ;). Hm, it might be sad but understandable to break with people or friends if there are no common interests or values anymore.

    Regards
    Gyro
     
  10. SisterRags

    SisterRags Member

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    Certain characteristics of people do change...somewhat, but their basic personalities don't change.
     
  11. cp08mzx

    cp08mzx Guest

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    yes people change some dont everyone's different and depends on type of crowd of people they hang around with
     
  12. Sir Digby Chicken Caesar

    Sir Digby Chicken Caesar Member

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    Thankfully, yes, most people do change. Your clothes do tend to get a bit whiffy after a while if you don't.
     
  13. slideruler

    slideruler Member

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    Fundamentally, people don't change. They do however have the potential to grow. It is the ones who wish to ascend what will. The ones who don't won't. But, sometimes through some kind of life changing event, it is at that point, people can take the steps in growth.

    So, if you are with someone in HOPES of change, it will not happen.
     
  14. BlueAsh

    BlueAsh Member

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    No, some people never change....I know of a few.....Its just who they are.
     
  15. Cherea

    Cherea Senior Member

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    He will never commit to you.
     
  16. Elle

    Elle Senior Member

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    I know I've changed with age. When I was 18 yrs old into my early 20's I was an untamable girl. I cheated on boyfriends, I was into the whole casual sex thing and very much on drugs. I'm 28 now and I will say that (maybe it has to do with age) I dunno - but I don't do these things anymore and never will. I would NEVER cheat on a boyfriend and even tho staying sober is REALLY hard...I've been clean since August. Tho, I do know some people that haven't changed with age and may never. An ex of mine was someone that professed he would "change" for me. He was 32 and on drugs and a complete "playa". I put trust in that -twice- and each time he let me down because I caught him in lie upon lie upon lie. He's one person I don't think will EVER change. He's with a new girl now (who is just stupid enough to be manipulated by him) and he's workin' her for all she's worth. She takes care of him financially too. AND.....he cheated on her with me. So....some do and some don't I guess
     
  17. mastercylinder

    mastercylinder Banned

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    in my experience most people change---with age---hormone levels change causing mental and physical changes---and hormones effect personalities as well---imo that is
     
  18. Karen_J

    Karen_J Visitor

    Everybody changes because of life experiences. If you want to stay in sync with your partner, you have to make sure you share plenty of common experiences. :)
     
  19. Gyro Gearloose

    Gyro Gearloose Senior Member

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    Hi,

    how much is too much? Is there something like too much? I think so.

    Regards
    Gyro
     
  20. jimmyjoe1

    jimmyjoe1 toker Lifetime Supporter

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    I agree if we didnt change life would be worthless :eek:
     

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