Serious Shit -- My wife has been diagnosed with cancer - neuroendocrine carcinoid. We've been married 35 years. She looks good now but I'm seriously worried. If worse comes to worse and she dies - I don't want to live on. I'm not sure if I should ask for tips on suicide or what. I'm 62 and don't know what to do but support her at this point. After that - I don't know.
sHOO - that's a tough thing to do. Right now we are not talking to each other about death - though it may come. What do you do for someone after they die?
there is a book that came out of the mayo clinic on spiritual healing related to physical healing mainly aimed at cancer patients, it has to do with resolution of your past....i cant remember the name of it right now for the life of me but i will find it, im sorry to hear your bad news, i would go holistic all the way in terms of treatment....
You do what she would want you to do, live on, she loves you and wants nothing but the best for you, keep her by your side and in your heart, geeeez I don't know what to say, be strong, she needs that in you more than anything else, if your strong she will be too.. Peace
I honestly don't know what to do - The whole thing is terrifying - I mean, should I deny her modern treatment in favor of something I really know nothing about. I would be on my own using god knows who for advice and support. I just don't know.
That I will try to do. 35 years - it's like two have become one. I can carry her weight as long as she's here - but I'm not sure I can deal with the loss of half my soul.
i didnt mean to imply you should deny her modern treatment, what i really meant was use all avenues available to you, educate yourself and dont be afraid to try different things. coupled with traditional treatment, holistic healing can go a long way.
Yes you can, cause that is she would want you to do, as long as you live she lives too, maybe not her body but her soul lives on, anytime you say her name she lives.. In the mean time, you explore any and every avenue that is open to treatment, and yes pray.. Peace
positive attitudes are crucial and can perpetuate healing and life. likewise she can sense your negativity/anxiety just as you can sense hers, even if you guys don't consciously recognize it. It's best for her and you to be optimistic and positive about life still. i am a firm believer in energy healing (even if in conjunction with medication), act normally. she hasn't changed and she won't unless she lets the cancer become her identity. You can help prevent it from becoming her identity if you don't identify her with the disease. good luck man
Thanks guys - you said some good things - things to think about. I appreciate your concern. Sometimes you can share serious stuff and get serious advice on Hipforums. Thanks
focus on staying positive for her...and cross your other bridges when you both get to them....hand in hand...talk to her about how you feel .....don't think too much about the future...take it day by day after all...any day could be our last best wishes to you Dud,,
ddoright, first let me say, i am sorry to hear about your wifes illness. you two are in my thoughts, i hope she makes a full recovery, and she has many more years of a full life. at this time in you two lives you need to find psychotherapist whom is skill in couples and greif counseling. if you two have a religion seek the help of the minister on this matter. these people can help guide you two in this time of crisis. please keep us up dated on both yours and hers condition, and may the grace and power of the universe be with you both!
I am sorry to hear that your wife has cancer. I know it must be very scary. I would never myself do chemo I feel it is a death sentence. Many people are scared into taking chemo and are told it is their only hope. I hope you and your wife will be brave a look at what alternatives are out there before you decide on a treatment. I am including a very interesting link to a you tube video please watch with an open mind and try not to be afraid. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pjhT9282-Tw I want to also add that you and your wife will be in my prayers.
i pray for ur wife and for all other sick pepopl too . i hope u can bear this hard situation . trust to the god, be with her most of the time and pray fo her much more. we should accept the reality of life and passing away is one the reality . be strong and brave.
