High School relationshiP!! HELP!

Well I have been going out with this girl for almost 2 weeks. We havnt kissed or held hands, we are both pretty nervous about this, idk why.

How would I go abouts kissing her in school? Like when would be a good time? And how would I basically get her to hold hands with me?

 

Why would you want to kiss her at school? If you haven't kissed her yet, I'm sure there are better places.

 

sneaking out of class to make-out... this really brings me back to my teen years...

places to make-out in school:
under the stairs
in the yearbook room
the auditorium
the stage
the band room
the band equipment room
the locker room
the cafeteria at lunch
by your locker, or hers
in class while the teacher is out
in the parking lot
by the smoking area
inbetween the stacks in the library
in the AV room
the bleachers
the tennis courts
in detention
in study hall

 

I dont hang out with her much out of school.

 

there's your problem. take her out!

 

^^ Agree.

 

Grab it. She wouldnt be "going out" with you if she did't want that. If this is your first relationship, be ballsy, its ok to make mistakes, its the only way to learn. And trust me making the first move as soon as possiable now will not be a mistake.

Are you really 19?

 

If he's in high school, probably not.

 

You know, I can relate because I've been there. My first girlfriend and I didn't really get too many opportunities to actually go OUT. So we tried to spend a lot of time together at school. Only, I was lucky enough not to get in your situation.

So, my suggestions are:

- Take full advantages of recess and lunch breaks. Go off somewhere quiet, possibly a nearby park if your school is close to one, and be all romantic.

- Make plans with her to stay a little while after school. Once again, take a walk in a nearby park or woods if there's something like that available close by.

By the way, my first kiss was right by a river in a forest behind our school. The actual kissing was a bit awkward but the atmosphere was perfect. Ahh, good times...

 

Also, to add in, this is both of our like almost first relationships, im no good at this stuff and not very daring or outgoing, so it's hard for me.

 

plan a simple weekend date. go to the movies or a cafe, or even to the park for a walk when you bump hands a couple times, grab hers.

 

Yikes, it was a bazillion years ago when I went through the same thing. Back in high school, I was terrified of girls, the potential for rejection, and just plain being an adult. It took me until I was about 20 to figure it out. For what it's worth, and coming from the standpoint of a boy/man who went through the same awkwardness, here are a few thoughts:

First, be as open and honest as you can. Tricky, I know, but go ahead and fumble through it. Don't be afraid be awkward. It's normal. Tell her you're nervous, but also tell her you enjoy her company. Focusing on kissing her and physical contact is a mistake, and it's only a byproduct of your friendship or, as you're hoping, a relationship. BE FRIENDS. Kissing a stranger is a drag, believe me.

If you want to initiate physical contact, simply do it a little at a time. When the two of you are sitting and talking, make a point to reach over and touch her hand to make a point. "Hey, you look great today," you can say, reaching over and briefly touching her hand or arm. Or, simply sit close enough that your arm or leg brushes against hers occasionally. Make eye contact at least once every time you see her. By that, I mean really make eye contact, the type that won't allow you to be deceitful because she can see into your soul. Then, pay attention to her response. Believe me, she'll let you know if it's okay. And don't take it personally if she backs off at first. Chances are she's as nervous as you are.

Forget kissing her at school. Waaaaaay to complex and risky. What will her girlfriends think? Will a teacher spot you and bust you for breaking a rule? Maybe you might tell her you're wondering what it would be like to kiss her, but don't do it at school.

Dating at your age in this sort of environment should be pretty easy, once you get around the supervision of the grownups and transportation thing. I mean, all the high school social things -- trips, dances, music, clubs -- are designed to make it easy for boys and girls to get to know each other.

The very fact that you're both students works to your advantage, too. Invite her to study. Ask her what she likes to do in her off hours and ask if you can join in. If she's decorating for a dance (I'm probably dating myself) or involved in a campus cleanup program, ask if you can help. Then, just do it.

If a sense of humor comes naturally to you, let it flow. Laugh, smile, joke, be fun to be with. Whatever you do, don't be too serious!

The point is, just BE with her and BE YOURSELF and the rest will work itself out.

 

I'll tell you what I tell this kid every other day, Stop being a pussy and do it. Don't plan shit out. Just do it. It shouldn't matter where you at. If your going to do something, do it. Who gives a fuck who is around when you do it.

 

Well im just nervous about all of this even though I shouldnt be, Im nervous I wont do something right and therefore embarrass myself.

 

I find it cute when a guy embarrasses himself...however, just be yourself and if she actually cares about you, she won't reject you.

 

Trust me you will do a lot of things 'not right' and you will live through it.

She wants you to make all the first moves, she is giving you the right to make mistakes.

 

Dude, just look her in the eyes and stare for about two seconds.
Kiss her, doesn't matter where you are. If ya get busted, whatever.

That's high school romance Best of luck, brother! I hope you do well

 

This is a cliche but take your girl to a movie do the whole yawn and put your arm around her thing wait a few minutes then just look into her eyes tell her you like her a lot and just do it. Worked for me.