Dammit, dammit, dammit. I really screwed up. (heartbreak/cool story bro content)

About a year ago I met this girl. She had a crush on me and I thought she was annoying.

Over time, we became best friends, then lovers, but not a couple. I was too knotted up about my last relationship. So we were friends w/ benefits and for a very long time I know she wanted to be my girlfriend so bad. I didn't want a relationship.

In the last couple months I've realized that she is the most beautiful person I've ever had the pleasure of knowing and that I'd like nothing more right now than to have her heart and vice-versa. I told her I really had feelings for her and that I'd love to be her boyfriend if she would like to be my girlfriend.

She said no.

Fast-forward a few weeks and now she doesn't talk to me as often, never tries to hang out with me anymore and I hear now she's banging some other motherfucker.

Goddammit.

I know I'm "not the only asshole who ever had a broken heart" (thanks dad) and that this too will pass, but goddamn this sucks right now.

 

yea it sucks huh? go score some snatch and drink a beer. maybe smoke a blunt and jerk off into somebody's shampoo. you'll feel much better.

 

How do you feel that you've screwed up?

Was it wrong to wait until you were ready for another relationship?
Was it wrong to ask her to go out with her after what you realized?

Sometimes the timing's just off, man; I don't see much reason to blame yourself.

 

Completely agree.

 

Well we've said goodbye.

I told her that a friendship could never work out with us because of how I'd fallen for her and that there isn't anything left for us.

At least I was a gentleman about it; I apologized for anything I ever did that might have hurt her and thanked her for all the good times and wished her well. Makes me sick to my stomach right now but at least it's over and done with.

 

just sounds like she wanted what she couldn't have, and when she could have it she didn't want it anymore. Typical young girl games, the fact that you thought she was annoying, and the fact that you didnt want a relationship with her is what kept her coming around. You changed your behavior, and she lost attraction to you.

See how that works? It drives some women wild when they want you but know they can only have a little bit of you if any at all.

 

I feel yeah man, my scenario is different, but long story short, my heart is broken too. To be honest with you I've felt this bad for like a year now. I guess I just haven't found anyone else to be with yet. Take Natural Philosophy's advice, get drunk and find any girl to bang...

 

You kinda had your chance brother and you blew it... Like yeah it sucks but maybe this is how she felt when yuo thought she was just a pain in the ass. Anyways I wish you luck and if it's meant to be it'll happen.

 

Oh yeah, I totally took her for granted and was such a fool. And I feel terrible for how she must have felt; she said she'd never liked someone the way she liked me.

All I can do is learn from it, though. I guess it's foolish to take someone for granted if they want to give you their heart. They could be seeing something that you're just too blind to see at the moment so you should give them a chance.

 

the only game i see being played is a girl in love being used as a piece of meat (no offense to the person who started the thread)....just making a point.

but anyways, i dont honestly believe any games were being played anyway. its really difficult for a girl to distance herself from someone she feels so strongly about, and once she gets past that point, she doesnt wanna go back. its a process, and in most cases once that process is complete, it can't be undone.

she fell for you, and got over you. like previously stated, it was just a matter of bad timing.