its a long story but i could really use some opinions on this drama. Edna = my boyfriend's mom Sandra = my boyfriend's sister Linda = Edna's coworker Linda usually pays a neighbor that she is comfortable with $60 to watch her 4 kids. Christmas was coming up, so she asked a coworker, Edna, if she knew anyone that would occasionally help her for $40, so she could save up some christmas money. During this time, Linda felt as though they did not genuinely want to help her, and that agreeing to watch the kids was based soley on profit and was treated like a chore. After the first time i watched the kids, i was overwhelmed with a passion that i knew was from deep within. After that night, i finally decided what field of nursing i wanted to go into: pediatrics. After helping Linda a few times, she was really moved by my passion for her kids. Since Linda stopped asking Edna for help, and stopped giving them her schedule, she did not know that Edna and Sandra would try to make plans without her consideration. Linda called to tell me that she felt so grateful that i had come into her life and was so willing and helpful and actually enjoyed watching the kids. Even my boyfriend would say it looked as though i was on a supernatural high after an accomplished day of being with them. I was developing in a way i never had before. During this phone call, Linda explained to me that she no longer wanted Sandra to watch the kids, because she is typically lazier and more irresponsible. Linda thought it would be fair that only i babysit because i am more gracious and willing, and that after the holidays she would begin paying me $60, because i quote "you're worth it" Well, Edna and Sandra call me to try to get me to tell Linda that i cant watch the kids so that Sandra can watch them. Meanwhile Sandra's electric bill is paid by her boyfriend, along with her cell phone bill, and the government pays for her rent and food. she uses her boyfriend's car and does not have to pay the insurance or put gas in it. And yet, they want me to turn down income when i am trying to raise the money to continue my schooling. But the thing is that, even if i do turn it down, Sandra isn't going to get it. the neighbor will get it. so my question is, if Sandra cant have it, why the fuck can't i? i think thats so ugly and spiteful for her to be upset with me for EARNING something that she expected to be given to her. And i understand that they had their hopes up, but Linda asked them for occasional help, she asked me for permanent help. it was Edna that took it upon herself to "take over." i just dont think i should have to give up something for her if she isnt going to get it anyway. please post your opinions, i am eager to hear them. thanks!
Yeah, do what you love. If you love those kids, it's going to be better for you and the kids if you're watching them and not someone who's just in it for the money. I mean, I think the ones who are caught in the middle are those guys. And it sounds like Sandra needs the money, (she is living on welfare!) but really needs to find a job elsewhere.
its too long for me to read all at once...but if the other person is on welfare and collecting babysitting cash on the side without claiming it I say fuck them
