Substances role in domestic violence?

I'm just kind of curious to get an array of viewpoints.

But do you think any specific substances help to manifest a paradigm in which male dominance exists? And essentially, domination resulting in violence.

 

There are typically two types of domestic violence. One type is fueled by anger and the other is about power and control. In the first type, alcohol plays a role sometimes. Sometimes, the man strikes the woman because she struck him first. In those cases police will tell the woman that since she struck first, then they cannot arrest just the man. She will have to be arrested, too. There are detailed police reports with this information.

The second type is more along the lines of extreme, consistent violence. Like stalking, threats, repeated beatings, etc. Once again, alcohol could play a part but, honestly, when I drink I don't want to hit anybody. It takes a certain personality type to want to beat up on people and it exists in both men and women. Alcohol could aggravate this urge to do harm in a person like that.

Also, if anyone hit me, male or female, I'd hit them back. I wouldn't have to be drunk or on any drugs at all. I'd also expect to be struck if I provoked a fight. It's not okay to hit anyone unless your defending yourself. Just my opinion.

 

I actually think it is our culture which fosters such behavior, as a whole we uphold a patriarchal framework within our society. This framework mandates fuel and imagery that depict certain things as a sign of dominance. Even if they are not necessarily condoned outright by movie makers and the like, they appeal to the subconscious of men who may already be abusive in nature. For instance: movies and other media sources often display the dominating or abusive male as being an alcoholic or some other type of addict, a man who may already feels that he must dominate a woman in order to be adequate will see that and think he also must meet that standard in order to "properly" dominate a woman.

Guys reading this may say "hey, I'm not a sick fuck, I don't watch TV and think i have to drink and abuse in order to appear masculine or adequate", while this type of thinking may not cross your mind, I certainly believe that it appeases the subconscious and makes that sort of behavior a self determining prophecy in a patriarchal society. Similar to the way people claim they don't care what others think of them, people always care to an extent.

I am NOT calling all guys abusive shits who get off to hitting women, but is it a problem sometimes? yeah it is. Am I saying I don't enjoy a little domination? not in the slightest.