I've been dealing with this a lot lately, I'm not sure why it's come up so much recently, but I can't figure out if I'm a lesbian or not. Here are the things that make me think I am: When I find out someone if a lesbian I get a little flutter in my chest (although it could be me trying not to act uncomfortable and getting nervous) I fall in love with girls' personalities, I love little things about them and admire and want to be like them. Little touches totally give me mad butterflies I love to cuddle with girls I want girls to be attracted to me I had a sexy dream with a girl (no one I know) the other night and liked it I've only slept with two guys and didn't really enjoy it that much, but it's only two guys... maybe they were duds... haha I've never felt intensely about a man These are the things that make me think that I'm not: I'm physically attracted to men I love kissing men and touching them I love to cuddle with them When my girl friends are with guys I like the guys and I don't feel jealous I don't think I want to kiss girls, but the sexy dream made me want to I don't know at all. It's been causing a lot of inner turmoil lately. Does anyone have any insight? A girl that I've only met once and found out after that she was gay, was working with me today and I just wanted to flirt with her all day, but I don't think she wanted to flirt with me... I don't know. I am so confused. Has anyone else been through this?
don't over-think it You could turn this over and over in your head and yet you might not ever come up with a conclusion. There are clear cut definitions for our sexuality like 'straight/bi/gay', and they seem exclusive, as in you can only be 1 of them. I think it's more complicated, if you are like me you might find it difficult to determine your sexual orientation. This is fine Don't worry about falling into a pre-concieved category. Love and sex and relationships are far too complicated for these definitions, just look for a nice person to love that loves you in return.
you shouldn't think about it. if you like girls... good for you! if you like boys... good for you! if you want both... even better for you!
