First off, I'm not really sure where to post this man, so if someone knows a better forum for this, feel free to let a mod know to move this over to it, thanks ! Anyway, Ok, so for a while my mother and dad have been having relationship issues. Now, this is after 30 years (not common?) and until recently, it seemed like a happy marriage. Now, lets fast froward to three weeks ago. My mother and farther were fighting in our basement (i was not here, i was at work) and my dad rocks my mom 3x, close-fisted to the face. To this point, I have known of nothing major, but only *very* minor episodes of physical violence (though the verbal abuse has been there for years) i have noticed through the years. He left her face black and blue, her lips fat as well as black and blue. Also, her other eye black and blue too. This left blood all over the basement, which the floor is still stained to this minute in a few spots, stained BLOOD red. I gather, after this point my dad and mom were walking up the stairs when at the top as soon as my farther opens the door, my bro ambushs him with a baseball bat. He then screams YOUR GONNA KILL ME ! and he continues to hit him with it, about 5-7 times. He let up and pined him down and called the police (the fuzz). The cops came, he tried to speak (make and idiot of himself) and the cop OWNED HIM and took him out in cuffs. So what happened since? He's not allowed to come by my mother ever again. Which now hes dumped right into a court case for Domestic Abuse to the second degree (a bullshit care, that goes away in six months). Some background info, we were I guess you can say the "american" family all through the 80-90's. Though my mom did notice minor things that would become red flags at a much later date. In the 00's, my bro and I grew up man, to the point were we could take care of ourselfs. But he entered a mid-life crises and was in it from about 99 to current. It is sad to see someone go through that man, but after ten years people were starting to distance themselfs from him. He became really violent, couldn't talk to him, never left his room when he didn't work, kept no lights on ect. Spent money on himself instead of his family, didn't even look at his 3 kids or wife for atleast two to three years. It's sad man, I grew independent of him a long time ago. All when I was growing up, I never ever once got a YO MAN, GOOD JOB ! , alwasy YO NO B+'s, A-s or better. Never any words of encouragement. I guess in the end, I am upset in general at the fact that my core belief is that, there is a peaceful resolution to all problems, and as a person, we must share love, peace with others and be the truest we can be to others, as well as ourselfs. After seeing\hearing about violence in the place that I live, well, I'm honostly not quite sure how to take it, understand from it, move on from it, eh idk. Sorry if I'm rambling, but I kinda just had to talk about this. I'll go into more details about the sit, if your interested. Peace n love guys <333
oh sweetie that breaks my heart, I kno-w that you are hurting.When things like that happen it burns a picture in your head that never goes away. I believe in peace also and peaceful resolution to problems, but I learned )the hard way) that not everyone feels as we do. I went through a very abusive marriage, when I finally had enough and left he thought that me and my kids were in the house and burnt it down. That was a few years ago. I also believe that everything happens for a reason, though at the time we dont know what it is. I'm sorry for the pain that you are going through. If you ever need to talk or vent feel free to PM me. Blessings!!!!!
To both of you guys. It saddens me to hear about the things you've gone through. But it also shows great strength that you guys remain (or seem to) peaceful and with loving heads on your shoulders. animalsASleaders: I hope that things even out and calm down for you soon. NO one deserves to go through that. I'll be sending you positive thoughts and love. Sweat pea ky: Keep on lovin' and doin' what you do. Peace to you both!
