i had rough sex 4 days ago, and stupidly did not use lube. now i have a tear on one side of my labia, and one right below my vagina. this is unbelievably painful - it's almost constantly hurting, especially when urinating, but it even hurts when i walk. i can't even get one finger in without it hurting like hell. i'm going to see my gyn in 2 days, but i'm freaking out cuz this has never happened to me before. when is this going to heal??? i've been putting neosporin on it every night, and taking warm baths, but it seems like there has been very little improvement since this has happened. does anyone have any other suggestions that can help this heal faster? should i wait until i'm completely healed to have sex - or even be fingered? another question to those have experience this: once you tear, are you more likely to tear again? i really like it rough and though i usually am good about using lube, i really don't want to have to have gentle sex (blah.) all the time.
i had a similar issue the other day, i have somewhat long inner labia, and (not as much fun as rough sex) i think i shifted funny in my jeans. split the whole left side of my slit! in between inners and outers. i put some aquaphor healing ointment on it, its like a miracle, felt a lot better overnight. works great on chapped toddler butts too. i don't think you are more likely to injure it, but you may want to lotion to help your skin flex, and def. ask your gyn about it.
I had no idea that could happen just from having sex :/ How bad a tear are we talking? Calendula is good for any kind of wound.
Is it just a tear or is there swelling too? I am naturally really tight and sometimes if I have rough sex and dry up a little then one side of my inner labia swells up and it hurts. It gets really big and really freaked me out the first time it happened. This only happens occasionally. It will hurt to pee, walk, sit and sex will be painful. Everything about it is uncomfortable with a slight sting. But it always goes back to normal and feel fine within 2 days.
Oh honey! I know just how you feel. I have the same problem where the condom rubs in one spot until I split. Sex isnt a good idea for atleast 3 weeks. And if ya cant wait, use so much lube its like a slip and slide. The best thing to do is not stick anything on it and leave it be until it heals by itself. It shouldn't come back if you use lube! Mine hasnt in ages. Hope this helps xx
My husband is large, and I am unusually small. I can't enjoy sex if it's not really rough. I know this problem well. Wait until you can at least get a finger in painlessly before inserting anything else, then be careful. I've never tried Neosporin on that area, I don't think you're supposed to, but if you have some sort of aloe-y personal shaving cream that will help. If not, you should get some. Wet by Intimo is my favorite, and useable for all skin problems. When urinating, try to stream over the spot. It hurts a lot, but urine is antibiotic and fights infection. You should do this after sex anyway, my doctor actually advised that one. Got a vibrator? I kid you not, you need clitoral orgasms every night until it heals. Alone is probably safer, as you can stop for pain. This keeps blood flowing to the wound, and will aid healing. Also, you're not getting laid for a while and you'll need the relief. For the future: more foreplay before penetration!
