I'm so stupid....

Ah. I am so stupid. I spent almost three years working on my dreads... and with the blink of an eye, I cut them off.

And lately, I have been questioning myself as to why. I have finally figured it out, at least I think I may have.

1. I was in a horrible relationship the majority of the time I had my wonderful dreadies. My ex was pretty emotionally abusive towards me. I think I wanted a change when we broke up and I cut them off to find some sort of peace with myself.

or.

2. I was pregnant when I cut them off and my pregnancy hormones when all psycho on me... and I cut them off.

Either way, I miss them dearly, especially Glory (the biggest and knottiest).

I am trying to live in the now (a lesson my dreads helped me learn, as any true dready discovers). I am slowly waiting for my short hair to grow longer so I can dread my hair again. But I am going to look at the bright side (of life... yes, I am singing monty python's life of brian) and learn from my mistakes and successes of my past dreads.

How many of you guys have cut off dreads and redone them?

Here are some pics of my dreads, including the sad one of me cutting them off. I still can't believe I cut them! Live and learn. Right?

 

yeah i cut my first set of dreadlocks off... i was in a heap of trouble with the law and it was a good time to change my looks. it was a fresh feeling.

about a year later i grew my hair out a bit and went the neglect route, feels even better... now i'm in about two years...


fuck yeah...

edit:btw, you are pretty girl... with or without dreadlocks.

 

You are lovely.

I say regrow.

 

Don't Go Giving Yourself A Hard Time Over It, What's Done Is Done, And

It Sounds Like Your Life Has Been Hell Recently Anyway..

Forget About The Past And Move On With Your Life.

Look Foward To A New Future, And New Locks......:grouphug:



Cheers Glen.

 

mmg: thank you for the compliment and giving me hope. i just feel.... bummed out that I spend so long on my dreads and then was so quick to cut them off. shame on me but you are right, it kind of was a breath of fresh air. now, I can redo them and make them better.

sarah_again: thanks. i think i will regrow them.

 

What all did you do to your last set?
Starting method and maintenance wise?


I swear I spelled maintenance wrong....

 

Hair is grows back, thus proving that the solution to every single dread related problem, including dread cutting regret, is time. Dreads truely are the awesomest and laziest of the hairstyles.

 

my first set was 3 years, and the story was basically exactly what mmg said, so yea, they had to go.

 

It could be a good thing. It sounds like there was some negativity associated with your dreads or at least with the time... so now if you regrow them maybe they will hold better energy.

 

glenglen: you are right. what is done is done. my life was pretty messed up for a while... but now that things are better, my new locks will be a fresh start. thanks for your insight.

sarah_again: i started with not doing anything for six months and nothing was happening... still very straight and not a single lock even beginning to form. so i had a back combing party and about 10 people went at my hair and backcombed it. after that, i didn't do anything. i don't believe in wax or anything. everynow and then, i would clean them with a mixture of sea salt, apple cider vinager, tea tree oil, baking soda, lemon juice and water. but thats all i did.

 

pypes, that's a good point. every friend ive had with dreads that has asked for advice always recieves "just give it time" from me. I need to tell myself that now! thanks for responding!

antithesis, i like to tell myself that is why i cut them, to shed the negative feelings, memories and/or energy that went with them. thanks.

 

I've grown and cut two sets of dreads now. I cut the first time because I thought my daughter had given me lice (gotta love public schools) and I had used wax, so they were getting mouldy and smelly. I just recently cut my locks after 5 years or so because I needed a change, I wanted to be able to wear hats & wigs and to find helmets that fit me for roller skating without paying a fortune for an xxxlg.
I'll probably grow some locks again someday...

 

Sorry to hijack the thread, but this is the first time I've read about you cutting your locks mama. Do you have any pics of the new 'do?

 

you are very pretty either way like mmg said. i don't know if that means anything comming from a 15 year old but yea.

 

Your dreads looked spectacular. Get 'em back!

I have had (too) many times in my life when I chopped my hair off (including chopping my 1st set of dreads, years ago). Inevitably, the chopping was the result of emotional frustration/anger/etc.

I'm sorry. I think I know how you feel The great thing about hair is...IT GROWS!!

 

I don't have much of a new do, its pretty scraggely looking right now. I haven't gotten a hair style/cut yet because I lost soooo much length when I combed them out and I'm scared to have short hair. I think I'm ready for a cut/style now though, after growing it out a bit over the last 2 months. I haven't had a professional hair cut in almost 10 years....I'm kinda nervous.

 

Thanks guys. I am totally going to grow my hair out a bit longer then start the dread process again. Mamakat, wow five y,ears! I bet you feel so different! I know I do and I had them for only a few years.

sweetemotion, thank you. age doesn't matter about whether I accept a compliment or not. It was nice of you.

Sisterrags, I think we both know how it feels then. Cutting hair to free the negative energy. I kind of one day was just like "screw all this!!" and went and got them cut. It was nice at the time, but now I miss my dreads. I am going to get them back. =]

 

I had my first set for about 2 years and chopped them out of boredom. I had my 2nd set for about 6 months and chopped them out of impatience. Now Im on my last and final set. Dont be so harsh on yourself. As pypes said...it'll grow back. =]

 

mad attractive

 

mandyland, how long have you had the ones your on now? i'm afraid I won't have the patience like I did the first time.

Enjoy, Thank you.