Any1 else struggling between bi and lesbian?

Hey, im a 20 yr old female. Iv been going out with bf on and off for 4 yrs.
I love him but dont no if im inlove with him, especially since the last time we broke up and i did 'it' with girls..
Sometime during sex i can only get horny thinking of girls.
I only look at girl porn and check out girls. Me and my bf are sooo different but i find it hard to think i can live without him, maybe because i dont wuna be alone or hurt his feelings (i care for him deeply). I dont no if im a bi or lesbian..
i guess i dont need 2 have a label but im soo confused, if i didnt go out with him id only wont girls..
Any1 else gone through this?

 

Think about yourself before your boyfriend. Stringing your bf can only make things worse. If you like girls and want a relationship or sex with them, then by all means go for it. Don't worry so much on the label, you like who you like and it sounds like you like girls. I mean, it's not going to hurt you if later on you like a guy, right?

 

female, 19

I left my boyfriend two months ago because of that. I lost him, he doesn't even speak to me,he didn't understand how could I leave him for someone that may not even exist! But I think I'm young and I can find someone better, that makes me feel special (butterflies in my stomach included).

I have sex with boys and girls. And I like it both. I think you love the person inside and the gender has nothing to do with it. It's very difficult to find someone special and for me, it's complicated to be sure of truly loving someone (I've only said it twice in my whole life, though I've had sexual-sentimental relationships with many people). So, if I fall in love with someone again, I won't care if it's a boy or a girl.

If you're not sure that you want to be with him, maybe you should'nt, you'll hurt him. I left my boyfriend because of that and I felt relieved (though I cry often when I see our photos). You'll find someone, you're young. If you think you like girls, just try. Don't let fear stop you. It's nice.

Good luck!

 

pd. remember this: not all girls are the same just because of being girls. choose the right one for a first experience, you'll know when you see her

 

Hon, you are TWENTY.. you haven't even completely come into your own... you have 7-10 more years until you find your true sexual/erotic/emotional peak... pull back on the reigns... take a deep breath... if you & he have been "on/off for 4 years" ..... Gurl! you were SIXTEEN when you started this... you barely were comfortable bleeding on your period when you started this "romance"... sorry to be so abrupt... just saying...

Yeah I am a guy... but let me ask you somethings... Do you masturbate? do you own toys? Do you KNOW your body? Do you know your cycle & its affects on your body?

I think, as a man who was with his high school sweetheart for 16 years & found nothing there, you are young, you need to let it go... experience life as it comes.. experiment... if that means SAFELY with guys or guls... so be it...

too many women think they have to find the perfect situation prior to 30.... there needs to be a federal law that no marriage licenses are issued before age 25 minimum... lol

good luck hon... chin up... you have your best years to look forward too.

 

To open2optionsBFW- I do masturbate and own toys, i have known my body 4 yrs... Its just hard when iv been with someone so long and have all these emotional ties, last time he found it hard just being my friend and didnt wont to see me but i ned him in my life..I want to have kids before im 25, i dont want to be a old mum so thats another worry. But thanx i have got alot to think about.


And thanx to evryone else trying to help!

 

NEEDing someone is not a good reason to stay with them. There has to be more.

And we should all remember that sexuality is more fluid than most people think. It's not black and white and gray. There's the entire rainbow, remember? So don't worry about pinning a label to your shirt. No one else needs it and neither do you.

 

I think you might be a lesbian, so I think you should probably chuck it into conversation with your boyfriend at some point.

 

Quote (I love him ,but I'm not IN love with him). He's gone.

 

I'm caught in between bisexual and straight. I know that I will always be attracted to females, no matter how I end up thinking in the future. I was attracted to them before I even started becoming attracted to females. But, I don't think I can love a female the way I can love a man. And I've been in love.

It sucks. Confusing.kl;lujyhjl'
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Hey thnx 4 all ur help, thort id let every1 no i broke up with him few months ago and now i no i am lesbian and hav had a gf, neva cud b with a man again. I am learning new things about myslf but now iv descovered that part of my life evrything is falling in2 place!