Weird Situation, advice anyone?

i just read the older posts and i have a solution cockblock your friend by telling that girl that ur friend said she was a slut

 

imo you should do everything in your power to keep your friends away from her, but don't leave your gf for her. be her really close friend, and be sure to keep it simply at that level. and make it known that you don't want anything more than that. stay with your girlfriend, and if this girl truely doesn't want to be a "slut" anymore, she'll understand the boundaries that you are setting and embrace the friendship that you're offering.

at the moment it seems like she needs a friend more than a lover, and dumping your girlfriend on a whim like that is fucked and honestly if i were your girlfriend and you did that to me... unspeakable things would happen.

 

sounds like she really wants you, Their is nothing wrong in liking someone or talking to a different person, you have a girl freind, as long as you don't mess around with her their is nothing wrong. it's ok to dream about being with another person ,what it would be like

 

be her friend

what are you asking advice on? like you were just asking if we all thought that rock band thing was enough to mean she likes you?
so what if it is? what are you gonna do about it? nothing. if you're smart

just be her friend, and protect her from dudes like your friend
have you talked to him about her?
do that

 

the doting look is because you are older, and you are nice to her. she thinks you know everything, and that means you have to be particularly clear in EVERYTHING that you say to her.
you love your girlfriend (i think we can all agree on this.)
be honest, tell her she really seems to need a close friend, and you can be that to her, but you love your girlfriend. let her know that nothing can happen between you. and then make sure you have the resolve to help this girl without falling prey to hormones.
you have been presented with a unique opportunity. you can mentor this girl, get her ready for the real world, and help her to stop the slut cycle.

the other thing is that there are a myriad of feeling involved in love. new feelings of love have a luster that makes them attractive, but the old, steady love is what you have with your gf. you just have to recognize that you do have caring, loving feelings for the new girl, but you can express your caring without betraying the love for your girlfriend. you just have to set the rules, she can't be allowed to think that something could happen between you. you care about what happens to her, and thats good, thats human. but you Love your girlfriend, and you should do something romantic for her to affirm it. you are suffering a crisis of feeling, it happens to the best of us dear.
and BTW, I love you CC, and I care what happens to you

 

ummmm yeah no i am voting AGAINST being this chick's "mentor" and "close friend" and etc people are mentioning... wtf... it's not your responsibility to take care of this chick. she may be looking to be rescued and she has to grow up and do it on her own... trust me you do not want to be in that position..

 

he has no responsibility to help her, its her life, but he does care what happens to her. if i cared what happened to someone and just stood by without helping them it would tear me up inside. he can help her once, informing her of his buddy's desires, or he can be there for her longer. but he will feel bad if his buddy fucks her and then gets rid of her, because he can help her avoid that pain. sometimes you need someone to talk to, and at least in my experience, sometimes theres noone there. its a lonely world when you need a friend.

 

i'm not doubting CC has good intentions. it's the chick that has obvious issues and it all sounds fucked to me

 

This basically sums up everything.

She needs someone to be with, not someone to fuck. My friends don't see that and think she's just an easy lay.

Either way this goes I'm gonna lose someone so I'm just preparing for it all now.

 

Does the girl know you have a gf? I wouldn't do anything with her... concentrate on your girl.

 

I agree with Heather. It sounds like she needs a genuine friend; someone who isn't going to judge her and someone who isn't just going to take advantage of her for sexual purposes. It sounds like she's never had a legitimate guy friend and she doesn't know how to have a non-sexual relationship with a guy, so you'll have to explain to her that you love your girlfriend, but that you're also gonna be there for this girl, no matter what.

However, if, at some point, you decide you want to be with this girl and she still wants to be with you, then that's fine too. Just make sure you think really hard about it, because you don't want to lose your current girlfriend for the wrong reasons.

Good luck, man. I'm sure you'll do the right thing, whatever that may be.

 

Well I've never actually told her I do.. But she has me on facebook and I know she's probably one of those kinds of girls who lurks people so she most likely knows about her.

She hasn't met her yet though. I don't want them to meet, even though I would never do anything wrong I still don't want them to meet... I don't know why I feel like that.

 

Yeah them meeting might not be the best idea.
When girls get to talking sometimes shit comes out that girls don't mean to say, so she might say something to your gf haha

 

fagggg

 

That's exactly what I'm scared of.

My girlfriend would be much more pissed if she knew I had a "mind crush" on this girl than if I actually fucked her.

Fuck, even if one of my buddies says something to my girlfriend I could be fucked... I'm already in way over my head.

 

I pray she dose not find out. the only people you should be telling is us and only us

 

it sounds like the "slutty" girl is trying to cure her slot-dom with more sex, which makes no sense.

you really should set her straight and point her in the right direction. maybe even suggest that she lay off boys in general for awhile so she can pull herself together and establish her own person rather than her being who everyone else wants her to be (ex- your buddy wants her to be his fuck buddy, which is TEH NO!)

 

i bet this new girl you're talking to has some problems. you don't wanna be apart of them. escape while you can.

 

She does have some problems, I just feel like I have to help her.

When a girl is basically melting down and holding on to you for her own sanity it's hard not to get attached.

I know too much about her now, and if I let her go back to her old lifestyle I would be just as bad as the guys who made her this way.

Nobody deserves to live like she does.

 

She isn't trying to fuck me.

I've heard stories from people and when this girl wants to fuck someone she doesn't hide it. When she talks to the other guys she acts like her normal self but as soon as she talks to me the mood always changes.

It's like she gets nervous around me, but it's weird because I get nervous around her too.

It reminds me of when I first got together with my girlfriend. A lot.