Stabbed a friend in the back in a forum. He found out!

''First of all this is about a friendship. Didnt know where else to put it.''

Hey, i recently posted on a forum (not this one) and my flat mate knew my username so he searched it one night and saw messages i had wrote which included him.
In this forum i was talking about 2 female flat mates of mine, saying i like one of them, and i was saying i would be a better match than my male flatmate for her. i said he was very ugly, desperate, and unsociable and made out i was so much better than him. i also exagerated facts. i feel terrible, i totally stabbed him in the back. Im never usually like this, im a guy for christ sake! i was drunk when i made the post, but thats no excuse.
He registered, and either him or one of the girls replied with disgust.
What on earth do i do? I havnt seen him as he is home for christmas. And he hasnt confronted me directly. He is a close friend, and so are the two girls.
I am so embarrased. What should i do? If the girls did read it, they will hate me for ever and think im some kind of freak.
Thanks

 

The only way to solve everything is to get everyone together for a huge orgy. You supply the booze and drugs.

 

Tell him what you're telling us. If you feel bad about it, say so. Tell him you had feelings for her and tell them that the feelings passed (if they did). If you only felt that way for a small amount of time, then it means nothing. Admit you exaggerated and that you were upset and never meant to hurt anyone.

 

Lesson learned: Don't expose your life too much on the internet, or it will come back to bite you in the ass. In this day and age, you can't hide much once it is posted online.

 

Sounds like you deserved it.

 

What should you do? I don't know. What do you want to happen? You don't want the girls to read what you wrote? Chances are they already read it. And even if they didn't, your friend cannot forget what you said. Which means he can no longer trust you. Which means that like it or not, your friendship with him is not going to be the same. Which will affect your friendship with the girls, whether they know or not.

You can talk to your friend and apologize. You can ask for forgiveness. You can ask him to trust you again. Don't expect him to give you these things though.

This is the only thing you can do. Apologize and move on. Meaning:

1. You know you did something wrong - don't do it again
2. Get on with your life. This means whether or not you still have a friendship with these three people, you need to move on.

EDIT: OOPS! I misread your post and thought your friend knew your password. So here's my new advice: Be extremely careful about whoever knows your username. Especially if you're going to talk about them. Nobody I know knows that I post here, let alone moderate.